Well I've reached that time in life where I have to prepare myself for my parents passing.
Both now in their 80's, Mum with dementia and now not been out of bed since Christmas. Dad, who has heroically been looking after her for the best part of ten years, has gone down hill rapidly in the last couple of months. He's showing signs of having enough, has no fight left in him and is shrinking before my eyes.
It's heartbreaking to see them now, as they were such a vibrant pair until a few short years ago
Really sorry to hear that Debs, tough time for you and the family, reckon all you can do is stay strong and try help and support them in whatever way you can. My Dad passed away a few weeks back from cancer, just awful. Keep telling myself he reached a good age (73), and he himself said once he'd led a full life and had no regrets - but I really miss him.
Everyone's different, but I found the best way to prepare for what we knew was going to happen was just to spend as much time with him as possible before the end, help/support if I could - and not question how he had decided he wanted to go out, which in his case was to not really talk about it openly, which was tough in some ways/for some, but was the way he wanted it and got to respect his wishes.
I dunno, the whole thing left me thinking there's got to be a better way, not sure what that is, but anyway.
Hang in there
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