The relationship/potential relationship advice thread

Had a call from Sarah last night. She was supposed to be coming over on Thursday April 21st for a reunion party that loads of us are going to. She was calling to explain that she wouldn't be able to make it





She then went on to suggest that she comes over earlier in that week to my place and we watch a film or something
Seems she's decided that this time she would prefer a more intimate, one-on-one evening  

Not the most flattering photo but this is from the night that we met (near the end of it, very drunk). I think we make a lovely couple,



I don't know if my eyes always drift off in opposite directions when I'd drunk but they're not like that sober, honestly!

Anyone here ever had a threesome?

Yes, thanks for asking !

Had a call from Sarah last night. She was supposed to be coming over on Thursday April 21st for a reunion party that loads of us are going to. She was calling to explain that she wouldn't be able to make it





She then went on to suggest that she comes over earlier in that week to my place and we watch a film or something
Seems she's decided that this time she would prefer a more intimate, one-on-one evening 

Not the most flattering photo but this is from the night that we met (near the end of it, very drunk). I think we make a lovely couple,



I don't know if my eyes always drift off in opposite directions when I'd drunk but they're not like that sober, honestly!

Nice one mate.

Already posted this in the topic with no real subject but I think its more appropriate here.

I have a friend who broke-up with her bf because she thought that there is no future for the relationship.But she is still very much in love with him and can't forget him.Can I do anything that will improve her situation?She's absolutely adamant that she made the right decision and is of the opinion that the boy doesn't deserve her whereas I always thought that boy was very lucky to get someone like her.She's one of the most caring and fun people I know.Help.

How old is she?

How old is she?

Wild guess 17

16 actually.Close Adryan.

But how does age matter?

Going to be honest here, sounds a bit like you're 'the friend' and you don't understand why she doesn't want to be with you anymore.

If not, she feels she made the right decision, so what's the problem?

See she is finding it difficult to move on in life.That's the problem

And no Dex I am not the boy.She really is my friend.

She'll get over it, people always do. Might seem bad at the moment, but that's just temporarily.

But how does age matter?

She's too young for long-term relationships. Let this alone. Young people are better off going out and experiencing different people and relationships. There's enough time later on for her to settle down with one person. Just my opinion.

Just to be clear, I'm not saying she should go and slut around either.

You sure Dex?It's been more than 3 weeks.

See she is finding it difficult to move on in life.That's the problem

Time and patience heal all relationship problems, no quick fix will help.

Getting pissed helps you forget but time's the best healer.

BR is right.

She shouldn't be taking long term relationships seriously at 16 and think of the future whatsoever at that age. Just go out with friends, meet new and more people and let things happen.

That's how the age matters. It's not about love alone because there are alot of things that have to be considered.

Yeah, that's the problem she is taking it seriously and keeps on telling me "I am not the move on types and won't be able to love anyone else".

You sure Dex?It's been more than 3 weeks.

3 weeks is nothing mate. What do you expect, that someone just stops caring and doesn't miss the other person? You've never really been in love have you? When you get older and get into more serious relationships and sh*t hits the fan then you can be heartbroken for months. Love and relationships can seriously F**k people up for a really long time.

No I haven't been in love.Okay then I'll leave it to time.Appreciate the help guys.

3 weeks is nothing mate. What do you expect, that someone just stops caring and doesn't miss the other person? You've never really been in love have you? When you get older and get into more serious relationships and sh*t hits the fan then you can be heartbroken for months. Love and relationships can seriously F**k people up for a really long time.

Never a truer word.

Well vik, I'm sure you will be some day. Being in love can be the greatest and the worst experience in your life. And that never really changes. But at your age those first loves seem like the most important thing ever, and you think you can never love someone else, or as much etc. But that's not true. It's part of growing up, and so is having your heart broken unfortunately. There's no preparing for it either.

Well vik, I'm sure you will be some day. Being in love can be the greatest and the worst experience in your life. And that never really changes. But at your age those first loves seem like the most important thing ever, and you think you can never love someone else, or as much etc. But that's not true. It's part of growing up, and so is having your heart broken unfortunately. There's no preparing for it either.

Just to add to Dex's sage advice..

One day your friend will meet someone that'll make her wonder what she ever seen in this lad. The heart ache she feels now is one of the things that'll make that possible. Sometimes you have to break a heart to make it stronger.

Good luck sweetheart.

She's too young for long-term relationships. Let this alone. Young people are better off going out and experiencing different people and relationships. There's enough time later on for her to settle down with one person. Just my opinion.

Just to be clear, I'm not saying she should go and slut around either.

I'm with BR on this. It's hard to tell that to a 17yr old though because they feel totally grown up. There are VERY VERY rare occasions when people stay together from such an early age but for most people they go through several relationships first. I started a relationship when I was 18 and it lasted until I was nearly 21. When that ended I was pissed off with myself for 'wasting' some of the best years of my life.