The relationship/potential relationship advice thread

After 9 years together, a kid, a mortgage (in my name) 3 fish, a dog, 3 rabbits and a cat me and my ex have now called it a day.

When the spark goes, you know, and staying together for the sake of 'commitments' just isnt how we should live.

So i'm back on the single train.  Dont know how i feel about that one tbh.  When i had my last first date Men In Black II was in the cimena!

It's like I've just looked into the future. Although the mortgage is in her name. Can't say that's much good to you, but I know what you mean about the spark going and staying together for the kid's sake. There are times I doubt myself. Maybe it's because I didn't want to be like my dad, but they say you should never judge someone until you walk a mile in their shoes.

Hope you can move on and get some kind of amicable relationship with the mother of your child.

Best of luck

It's like I've just looked into the future. Although the mortgage is in her name. Can't say that's much good to you, but I know what you mean about the spark going and staying together for the kid's sake. There are times I doubt myself. Maybe it's because I didn't want to be like my dad, but they say you should never judge someone until you walk a mile in their shoes.

Hope you can move on and get some kind of amicable relationship with the mother of your child.

Best of luck

Yeah cheers mate, believe me we did try.  Trips abroad etc etc, my parents divorced and it was, and still is, pretty harsh for them.  Me and Kaz arent like that, we're best friends as it is anyway.  I just didnt want the part time parent thing....

Its all amicable though, she's staying in the house and paying me rent.  I've found a place right next to Warrington Central train station which is ideal for work.

Tell you what though dude, IF you are having trouble try your best to see if it can be fixed.  Not at all saying it will crop up in your relationship but if the decision is made by either of you just out of frustration, and then regretted.  Sometimes there is no going back.

For those of you who followed my hopeless attempts of pulling Donna over the last few months, I have something of an update.
One TINY detail I may have neglected to mention is that she's actually bi. I've know that from the start anyway.
Seems I've lost out to another girl. I could see it coming and I've pretty much accepted Donna as a mate now. Kind of glad it's not another lad actually. If that was the case then maybe I'd be looking at him and wondering what he's got that I haven't. With a girl that's pretty obvious!
Donna has spent pretty much all weekend with me (we'd planned this for a couple of months) and these recent developments didn't stop us having a brilliant time which included watching pole dancers. She was as excited as me 
Still get that slight knot in my stomach when she's about but I'll get over it.

For those of you who followed my hopeless attempts of pulling Donna over the last few months, I have something of an update.
One TINY detail I may have neglected to mention is that she's actually bi. I've know that from the start anyway.
Seems I've lost out to another girl. I could see it coming and I've pretty much accepted Donna as a mate now. Kind of glad it's not another lad actually. If that was the case then maybe I'd be looking at him and wondering what he's got that I haven't. With a girl that's pretty obvious!
Donna has spent pretty much all weekend with me (we'd planned this for a couple of months) and these recent developments didn't stop us having a brilliant time which included watching pole dancers. She was as excited as me 
Still get that slight knot in my stomach when she's about but I'll get over it.

How's things with the other girl though Rep?

Which one? :p

Sarah. Yeah it's all good, she's still planning to come down towards the end of the month. She texts me now and then and has said she'd like us to go to Alton Towers at some point (not far from my house) so I'm pretty sure she's still interested. With Sarah it's more logistics, as cold as that may sound. She has two kids which isn't a problem in itself but she lives in Leicester as well which is a good hour away.

Also been talking to a girl from Warrington named Tina that I met at my mate's unit when I was fixing the brakes on my car. To put it simply, it's on a plate! This one has a 2 yr old kid but she also has a fella who's nearing the end of a 2 and a half year stretch at her majesty's pleasure!!! I do pick 'em.

Think Sarah's the best bet. Be interesting to see how we hit it off when stone-cold sober.

Sorry it didn't work out with Donna, but at least you've found a bit of certainty as per where you stand. Better than wondering and worrying and getting all worked up.

Onward and upward, my friend.

Rep, you're on fire dude
Nice to hear that things are, well, ok

Sorry to hear things didn't work out with Donna, but at least you know where you stand and can move on. It seems like you are well prepared to move on from her and see what you have with the other women.

Yeah thanks all, I think I'll always wonder what could have been if she'd seen things a different way but as you've rightly said, at least there's some sort of closure on that front.
The other bonus is that she got drunk and showed me pictures of her girlfriend's breasts  

Her girlfriend bi too? I can see a threesome on the horizon.

Obviously that had crossed my mind but I don't want to just move on to the next fantasy and tie myself in knots over that one, . I THINK she's lesbian, not 100% sure though.
All 3 of us are going to an all day music festival in a couple of weeks and stopping in a hotel (me and Donna... her missus lives in that area anyway). Being gracious in defeat, I even got her missus a ticket to the aftershow party. I'll get them both pissed then find out 

Post pics.

Good luck with that Rep!

Anyone here ever had a threesome?

Yes. You.

Pics or it never happened. I lost my favourite nympho to the fairer sex. I don't know why but it doesn't feel as bad. Might be that she showed me naked pictures of her with the other one during our on off period. Good times

No, I haven't Gow, though I've had a simlarish experience to it once.

Good luck with that Rep!

Anyone here ever had a threesome?

Yes me. I wasn't always this f***in useless!  

Could've fooled me.

Nice one though.

Anyone here ever had a threesome?

Yeah...twice 

Rep, I have to say I was almost laughing and crying at the same time.....you enjoy yourself hun 

Oh, naughty Cas!
Not even surprised there..

Man I love this thread

Oh, naughty Cas!
Not even surprised there..

  Am I that naughty 

Man I love this thread

Thought you would 

Anyone here ever had a threesome?

Yep but I'll spare you the details.