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      RedWilly
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      The mental health thread
      Feb 28, 2019 07:20:20 pm
      After reading about the discussion on KopiteLuke in the ‘whatever happened to’ thread, it touched a nerve for me on mental health having gone through my own struggles last year and thought it would be good to have a thread where anyone can come in and post what they might be struggling with to just be able to talk about it on a forum where you are unlikely to ever meet the person in ‘real life’.

      I’d had a complete breakdown at the start of last year, where I started hallucinating, thought the world was out to get me and found myself wandering the streets and got led around the city into some dodgy areas swiping my bank card for over £1000 and my cell phone robbed, along with my car keys etc. The worst wore off but for months after I wasn’t the same and was fearful of another breakdown happening and had a few panic attack’s, once at work and another time just again out and about.  I remember driving my car like a lunatic thinking I was being followed and am so grateful I didn’t have an accident.

      Thankfully (touch wood) I can now deal with anything like that in a much better manner and spot the signs, but it was triggered by suppressing a lot of emotions and unresolved issues that I was refusing to deal with and ever since I’ve become a lot more mindful of taking care of my own mental state and learning what works for me and what doesn’t. Mostly it came back to actually expressing my emotions in a healthy manner, rather than trying to live up to an ‘image’ and starting to acknowledge my own flaws and learning to let my emotion pass rather than reacting to it, although the specific issues went unresolved for years and years.

      Much more to it than that, but in hindsight, before my breakdown I was really not healthy and since I’ve worked through it I can honestly say I’ve never been happier and appreciate things a lot more than I ever did in the past. It was a real wake up call for me the breakdown and was the best thing that could have happened to me in the end. Been seeing a therapist just once a month since and the results are amazing. I’ve definitely become more of a hippy in a way :D

      No obligation to post, but like I say, it’s important I think to have a space where you can talk freely about any struggles you might be going through.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #1: Feb 28, 2019 07:27:55 pm
      After reading about the discussion on KopiteLuke in the ‘whatever happened to’ thread, it touched a nerve for me on mental health having gone through my own struggles last year and thought it would be good to have a thread where anyone can come in and post what they might be struggling with to just be able to talk about it on a forum where you are unlikely to ever meet the person in ‘real life’.

      I’d had a complete breakdown at the start of last year, where I started hallucinating, thought the world was out to get me and found myself wandering the streets and got led around the city into some dodgy areas swiping my bank card for over £1000 and my cell phone robbed, along with my car keys etc. The worst wore off but for months after I wasn’t the same and was fearful of another breakdown happening and had a few panic attack’s, once at work and another time just again out and about.  I remember driving my car like a lunatic thinking I was being followed and am so grateful I didn’t have an accident.

      Thankfully it (touch wood) I can now deal with anything like that in a much better manner and spot the signs, but it was triggered by suppressing a lot of emotions and unresolved issues that I was refusing to deal with and ever since I’ve become a lot more mindful of taking care of my own mental state and learning what works for me and what doesn’t. Mostly it came back to actually expressing my emotions in a healthy manner, rather than trying to live up to an ‘image’ and starting to acknowledge my own flaws and learning to let my emotion pass rather than reacting to it, although the specific issues went unresolved for years and years.

      Much more to it than that, but in hindsight, before my breakdown I was really not healthy and since I’ve worked through it I can honestly say I’ve never been happier and appreciate things a lot more than I ever did in the past. It was a really wake up call for me the breakdown and was the best thing that could have happened to me in the end. Been seeing a therapist just once a month since and the results are amazing. I’ve definitely become more of a hippy in a way :D

      No obligation to post, but like I say, it’s important I think to have a space where you can talk freely about any struggles you might be going through.

      Good on you fella - both in your openness and your recovery.

      I think we all face a form of mental health crisis at times - I certainly have had periods where I know I have struggled. I think so many people put things down to a bad run or just blame the universe and never really recognise they’re not well.

      Great idea for a thread.
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      Reply #2: Feb 28, 2019 07:37:09 pm
      Good on you fella - both in your openness and your recovery.

      I think we all face a form of mental health crisis at times - I certainly have had periods where I know I have struggled. I think so many people put things down to a bad run or just blame the universe and never really recognise they’re not well.

      Great idea for a thread.

      Thanks mate. Agreed on just putting things down to a bad run.

      My build up was just a series of events and trying to brush them off as if they were nothing for about a year and it all caught up with me eventually. Very thankful that I just lost a bit of cash, it really could have been a lot worse which is what scared me the most as I worked through it.

      I think the modern world really makes it hard to admit there is a problem, where you’re expected to have it all and post about it all over social media etc (although that may be more of an issue for my millennial generation).
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #3: Feb 28, 2019 07:57:24 pm
      Mental health has been badly neglected not only by us as individuals  but you could argue the state through the NHS.

      With National priorities for CVD prevention, smoking cessation, cancer detection etc.

      Of course we as Brits don’t help ourselves with the old stiff upper lip attitude to talking about things which well we should be “strong and manly” about.........

      Figures for suicides in thevUK still point to 3/4 of all suicides are by males and the majority of these are through a violent nature, like hanging, jumping off a building whereas women are more likely to have a overdose via tablets or alcohol.

      So in essence women are probably likely to call out for help earlier where as for men their depression or anxiety has built up over such a time that the outcome is no longer in doubt in their mind.

      My wife’s nephew in Vancouver hung himself last summer with 2 young kids, another one who outwardly seemed so strong and full of himself but only after the event we found out about his marital problems, insecurities and fears of losing his children and with this being his second marriage how would he be seen as this “perfect person” by his family and friends.

      The importance of good Mental Health has been ignored for too long....
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      Reply #4: Feb 28, 2019 08:17:31 pm
      Mental health has been badly neglected not only by us as individuals  but you could argue the state through the NHS.

      With National priorities for CVD prevention, smoking cessation, cancer detection etc.

      Of course we as Brits don’t help ourselves with the old stiff upper lip attitude to talking about things which well we should be “strong and manly” about.........

      Figures for suicides in thevUK still point to 3/4 of all suicides are by males and the majority of these are through a violent nature, like hanging, jumping off a building whereas women are more likely to have a overdose via tablets or alcohol.

      So in essence women are probably likely to call out for help earlier where as for men their depression or anxiety has built up over such a time that the outcome is no longer in doubt in their mind.

      My wife’s nephew in Vancouver hung himself last summer with 2 young kids, another one who outwardly seemed so strong and full of himself but only after the event we found out about his marital problems, insecurities and fears of losing his children and with this being his second marriage how would he be seen as this “perfect person” by his family and friends.

      The importance of good Mental Health has been ignored for too long....


      Spot on. Sorry to hear about your wife’s nephew.

      The longer things are left bottled up, the more it appears to be this unresolvable monster, when the reality is likely to not be anywhere near as bad as the convoluted scenario painted in someone’s head. These images and stereotypes that society creates is a major issue, as it creates an ideal to be lived up to, that may not be what a certain individual wants or needs but pursued anyway to satisfy others.

      It takes a shift in society’s judgement to make people feel more comfortable to be able to speak openly about anything that may be impacting them and like you say, that needs to be driven at a state level and filter down to all sections of society.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #5: Feb 28, 2019 08:22:45 pm
      After reading about the discussion on KopiteLuke in the ‘whatever happened to’ thread, it touched a nerve for me on mental health having gone through my own struggles last year and thought it would be good to have a thread where anyone can come in and post what they might be struggling with to just be able to talk about it on a forum where you are unlikely to ever meet the person in ‘real life’.

      I’d had a complete breakdown at the start of last year, where I started hallucinating, thought the world was out to get me and found myself wandering the streets and got led around the city into some dodgy areas swiping my bank card for over £1000 and my cell phone robbed, along with my car keys etc. The worst wore off but for months after I wasn’t the same and was fearful of another breakdown happening and had a few panic attack’s, once at work and another time just again out and about.  I remember driving my car like a lunatic thinking I was being followed and am so grateful I didn’t have an accident.

      Thankfully it (touch wood) I can now deal with anything like that in a much better manner and spot the signs, but it was triggered by suppressing a lot of emotions and unresolved issues that I was refusing to deal with and ever since I’ve become a lot more mindful of taking care of my own mental state and learning what works for me and what doesn’t. Mostly it came back to actually expressing my emotions in a healthy manner, rather than trying to live up to an ‘image’ and starting to acknowledge my own flaws and learning to let my emotion pass rather than reacting to it, although the specific issues went unresolved for years and years.

      Much more to it than that, but in hindsight, before my breakdown I was really not healthy and since I’ve worked through it I can honestly say I’ve never been happier and appreciate things a lot more than I ever did in the past. It was a really wake up call for me the breakdown and was the best thing that could have happened to me in the end. Been seeing a therapist just once a month since and the results are amazing. I’ve definitely become more of a hippy in a way :D

      No obligation to post, but like I say, it’s important I think to have a space where you can talk freely about any struggles you might be going through.

      Good to hear mate, as someone who battles on and off it's always good to hear people finding a light in the darkness . Sometimes it's the smallest things that set me off but also the smallest things like a simple pleasure which help me feel good about myself. One day i will pluck up the courage to seek professional help but i have reached the point where i have realised what my priorities in life ara, this has helped me but still there are times i feel overwhelmed by everything and not in control of myself and my thoughts which is pretty scary.
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      Reply #6: Feb 28, 2019 08:52:44 pm
      After reading about the discussion on KopiteLuke in the ‘whatever happened to’ thread, it touched a nerve for me on mental health having gone through my own struggles last year and thought it would be good to have a thread where anyone can come in and post what they might be struggling with to just be able to talk about it on a forum where you are unlikely to ever meet the person in ‘real life’.

      I’d had a complete breakdown at the start of last year, where I started hallucinating, thought the world was out to get me and found myself wandering the streets and got led around the city into some dodgy areas swiping my bank card for over £1000 and my cell phone robbed, along with my car keys etc. The worst wore off but for months after I wasn’t the same and was fearful of another breakdown happening and had a few panic attack’s, once at work and another time just again out and about.  I remember driving my car like a lunatic thinking I was being followed and am so grateful I didn’t have an accident.

      Thankfully it (touch wood) I can now deal with anything like that in a much better manner and spot the signs, but it was triggered by suppressing a lot of emotions and unresolved issues that I was refusing to deal with and ever since I’ve become a lot more mindful of taking care of my own mental state and learning what works for me and what doesn’t. Mostly it came back to actually expressing my emotions in a healthy manner, rather than trying to live up to an ‘image’ and starting to acknowledge my own flaws and learning to let my emotion pass rather than reacting to it, although the specific issues went unresolved for years and years.

      Much more to it than that, but in hindsight, before my breakdown I was really not healthy and since I’ve worked through it I can honestly say I’ve never been happier and appreciate things a lot more than I ever did in the past. It was a really wake up call for me the breakdown and was the best thing that could have happened to me in the end. Been seeing a therapist just once a month since and the results are amazing. I’ve definitely become more of a hippy in a way :D

      No obligation to post, but like I say, it’s important I think to have a space where you can talk freely about any struggles you might be going through.

      Glad to hear you have been able to conquer the difficulties you were having and have been able to learn from it all.

      Not sure how everyone else is but I think it is a great idea to confide in others in regards to things like this, for me personally it makes me feel like i have had a weight lifted of my shoulders. I go through periods where I feel down and I can't put my finger on why but I just don't feel like talking to anyone at the time or doing anything but after when I share that experience with others and talk about it I feel better. Recently, I have been a lot better and being able to look back on the lows and realize you know what things are good right now is great.

      I think experiencing such lows myself helps me advise friends better when they experience such issues, I have two close friends who suffer from depression and talking to them about everything and creating a dialogue about how they feel is what really hits home and helps them feel better I think.

      I personally love the idea of this thread and think it could do some real good for those who may not have previously wanted to share their 'issues' but sharing it with others works for me and if there is anything I can do to help anyone feel free to shoot me a PM.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #7: Feb 28, 2019 09:34:47 pm
      I'm glad some are coming out after having some tough times.

      Slowly emerging from one myself. Found myself in a real dark place a few weeks ago. I'd been handing out food to the homeless in my city centre, I'd been depressed for weeks, but my public face isn't always the way I'm feeling.

      On the way home, as I stood on the train platform, I contemplated jumping.

      It's draining though, knowing you're ill, but pretending everything is fine, smiling laughing and joking around at work, but I completely withdrew from my family, I can't fake it front of them.

      I'm feeling better, but my sleeping is still a mess, I'm wiped out emotionally. It's damaged my progress from my weight loss, I've not had the energy to exercise.

      Into week 5 of my antidepressants, they are starting to help, the weather, though not today, being brighter, helped my mood, but I've ruined more than one relationship on this period, including one with a woman I'm still very much in love with, and I can't blame her, can't, in truth, blame myself, but it sucks.
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      Reply #8: Mar 01, 2019 01:07:09 am
      I'm glad some are coming out after having some tough times.

      Slowly emerging from one myself. Found myself in a real dark place a few weeks ago. I'd been handing out food to the homeless in my city centre, I'd been depressed for weeks, but my public face isn't always the way I'm feeling.

      On the way home, as I stood on the train platform, I contemplated jumping.

      It's draining though, knowing you're ill, but pretending everything is fine, smiling laughing and joking around at work, but I completely withdrew from my family, I can't fake it front of them.

      I'm feeling better, but my sleeping is still a mess, I'm wiped out emotionally. It's damaged my progress from my weight loss, I've not had the energy to exercise.

      Into week 5 of my antidepressants, they are starting to help, the weather, though not today, being brighter, helped my mood, but I've ruined more than one relationship on this period, including one with a woman I'm still very much in love with, and I can't blame her, can't, in truth, blame myself, but it sucks.

      Good on you mate for being open. You can’t blame anyone, it’s just the way your mind has interpreted something I guess. I remember something as a teenager where I’d had this big argument with my dad and I went off to my room and was googling how to kill myself and ended up on the samaritans website wanting to phone them but couldn’t bring myself to. Should have been a warning sign for me but I ignored it and didn’t deal with the underlying issues until my breakdown, which was over 10 years later. Crazy how you can be on a slippery slope and not even realize.

      I know what you mean about maintaining the smiles and jokes etc whilst feeling wiped emotionally underneath. I had started seeing my therapist in sessions before work and a lot of stuff came up from my childhood/teenage years that I never saw coming and I’d burst into tears and then be off to work still rocking and dwelling on the topic. It’s hard.

      I shifted a few things around my schedule to find time in the mornings after to go for a short walk in nature and ideally find a body of water to look out over for about 15 minutes as a form of meditation almost which helped me massively.

      Glad to hear you’re emerging buddy and I’m sure the people who care for you will be there on the other side once you’re ready to reconnect.
      « Last Edit: Mar 01, 2019 02:29:49 am by RedWilly »
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      Reply #9: Mar 01, 2019 01:21:47 am
      Good to hear mate, as someone who battles on and off it's always good to hear people finding a light in the darkness . Sometimes it's the smallest things that set me off but also the smallest things like a simple pleasure which help me feel good about myself. One day i will pluck up the courage to seek professional help but i have reached the point where i have realised what my priorities in life ara, this has helped me but still there are times i feel overwhelmed by everything and not in control of myself and my thoughts which is pretty scary.

      Good on you mate. The professional help really helped me but I had to chop and change a few times to get it right. My first therapist I found got to a lot of issues that I wasn’t even aware of and I took a break of about 3 months in the end, as I didn’t actually enjoy the dynamic between us and felt quite judged at times.

      When I started again I actually decided to go with a new therapist because I didn’t want to go back into that environment with someone where I’d had a lot of anger and went completely fresh to a new therapist with the intention of going in and being on the front foot and explaining from my perspective. Really helped me and probably the best thing I did.

      If you’ve got to a place though where you now your priorities then that’s a great place and foundation to work from.
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      Reply #10: Apr 03, 2019 01:39:40 am
      Haven't been on the forum in a while. Finding my life very tough at the moment. First time I've logged in for a while and I stumble across this thread. 

      I ran my own company for years which was a family business. I had a fallout with my father and we haven't spoken in a while now. I left the company and lost my livelihood. Im now in a bit of debt because of it.

      I have a son, he's nearly 9. For some strange reason, his mother just can't be civil even though we parted ways shortly after he was born. She is just determined to make my life a misery. Always wants war. Always wants drama. It's an every day occurrence.

      We've had the same arrangements in place for his whole life but she's recently drragged me through the courts to try and reduce my time with him and to increase hers. She asked that my time was cut by 50%. This was incredibly tough and stressful.

      Then to top everything off, I found out on friday night just gone that my fiancé who I've been with for almost 7 years now (proposed may 2018) has been having an affair with a man she works with for several months. I knew she was upto something and it was making me miserable for ages and then I eventually discovered it all out this weekend.

      My partner also has a child the same age. I've been her step dad for seven years. So my family is just completely broken now.

      I'm finding it really tough. Very tough. I feel like I've lost my mind. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm just incredibly sad and I can't describe the pain that just won't go away. I can't sleep or eat. I just feel so unwell.

      I've been drinking heavily this weekend after discovering what my partner was upto, and then on Saturday morning I went for a walk but only ended up at the local train station. I wanted to throw myself infront of a train and just end it all. I started to write a letter on my phone to my son and I burst out crying. Went through my photos of him and cried more. I couldn't go through with it. I couldn't do it to him.

      Since then I put a cry out to Facebook. I asked if anyone was free for a chat because I was really struggling and I needed help.   The responses I got was actually overwhelming. So many people asked to see me and if I was ok.

      A couple of mates came and got me and we just sat and talked for ages. It helped.

      And that's all I've done every day since. Getting outdoors. Trying to be active. Always with somebody. Always talking to somebody. And it's helping, slowly.

      My dad has since been in touch and we hugged it out. He's suggested I go and stay with my sister for a few days who lives down south, which I think is a good idea.

      Right now I'm typing this in the spare bedroom of my best friends house. He's looked after me.

      I'm trying my best to get through it. To get a grip. To man up. But it's f**king hard man. And I'm really f**king struggling right now.

      If Liverpool don't win this f**king league it's going to push me over the edge  :lmao:



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      Reply #11: Apr 03, 2019 08:23:39 am
      Haven't been on the forum in a while. Finding my life very tough at the moment. First time I've logged in for a while and I stumble across this thread. 

      I ran my own company for years which was a family business. I had a fallout with my father and we haven't spoken in a while now. I left the company and lost my livelihood. Im now in a bit of debt because of it.

      I have a son, he's nearly 9. For some strange reason, his mother just can't be civil even though we parted ways shortly after he was born. She is just determined to make my life a misery. Always wants war. Always wants drama. It's an every day occurrence.

      We've had the same arrangements in place for his whole life but she's recently drragged me through the courts to try and reduce my time with him and to increase hers. She asked that my time was cut by 50%. This was incredibly tough and stressful.

      Then to top everything off, I found out on friday night just gone that my fiancé who I've been with for almost 7 years now (proposed may 2018) has been having an affair with a man she works with for several months. I knew she was upto something and it was making me miserable for ages and then I eventually discovered it all out this weekend.

      My partner also has a child the same age. I've been her step dad for seven years. So my family is just completely broken now.

      I'm finding it really tough. Very tough. I feel like I've lost my mind. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm just incredibly sad and I can't describe the pain that just won't go away. I can't sleep or eat. I just feel so unwell.

      I've been drinking heavily this weekend after discovering what my partner was upto, and then on Saturday morning I went for a walk but only ended up at the local train station. I wanted to throw myself infront of a train and just end it all. I started to write a letter on my phone to my son and I burst out crying. Went through my photos of him and cried more. I couldn't go through with it. I couldn't do it to him.

      Since then I put a cry out to Facebook. I asked if anyone was free for a chat because I was really struggling and I needed help.   The responses I got was actually overwhelming. So many people asked to see me and if I was ok.

      A couple of mates came and got me and we just sat and talked for ages. It helped.

      And that's all I've done every day since. Getting outdoors. Trying to be active. Always with somebody. Always talking to somebody. And it's helping, slowly.

      My dad has since been in touch and we hugged it out. He's suggested I go and stay with my sister for a few days who lives down south, which I think is a good idea.

      Right now I'm typing this in the spare bedroom of my best friends house. He's looked after me.

      I'm trying my best to get through it. To get a grip. To man up. But it's f**king hard man. And I'm really f**king struggling right now.

      If Liverpool don't win this f**king league it's going to push me over the edge  :lmao:





      Sorry to hear all that pal I don’t know you from a bar of soap but know from your views on the reds and football your a sound lad.

      Keep your chin up the only way is up time will heal it as proved already with your old man you need to find the strength to keep going mate step by step.

      YNWA!
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      Reply #12: Apr 03, 2019 08:56:24 am
      Haven't been on the forum in a while. Finding my life very tough at the moment. First time I've logged in for a while and I stumble across this thread. 

      I ran my own company for years which was a family business. I had a fallout with my father and we haven't spoken in a while now. I left the company and lost my livelihood. Im now in a bit of debt because of it.

      I have a son, he's nearly 9. For some strange reason, his mother just can't be civil even though we parted ways shortly after he was born. She is just determined to make my life a misery. Always wants war. Always wants drama. It's an every day occurrence.

      We've had the same arrangements in place for his whole life but she's recently drragged me through the courts to try and reduce my time with him and to increase hers. She asked that my time was cut by 50%. This was incredibly tough and stressful.

      Then to top everything off, I found out on friday night just gone that my fiancé who I've been with for almost 7 years now (proposed may 2018) has been having an affair with a man she works with for several months. I knew she was upto something and it was making me miserable for ages and then I eventually discovered it all out this weekend.

      My partner also has a child the same age. I've been her step dad for seven years. So my family is just completely broken now.

      I'm finding it really tough. Very tough. I feel like I've lost my mind. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm just incredibly sad and I can't describe the pain that just won't go away. I can't sleep or eat. I just feel so unwell.

      I've been drinking heavily this weekend after discovering what my partner was upto, and then on Saturday morning I went for a walk but only ended up at the local train station. I wanted to throw myself infront of a train and just end it all. I started to write a letter on my phone to my son and I burst out crying. Went through my photos of him and cried more. I couldn't go through with it. I couldn't do it to him.

      Since then I put a cry out to Facebook. I asked if anyone was free for a chat because I was really struggling and I needed help.   The responses I got was actually overwhelming. So many people asked to see me and if I was ok.

      A couple of mates came and got me and we just sat and talked for ages. It helped.

      And that's all I've done every day since. Getting outdoors. Trying to be active. Always with somebody. Always talking to somebody. And it's helping, slowly.

      My dad has since been in touch and we hugged it out. He's suggested I go and stay with my sister for a few days who lives down south, which I think is a good idea.

      Right now I'm typing this in the spare bedroom of my best friends house. He's looked after me.

      I'm trying my best to get through it. To get a grip. To man up. But it's f**king hard man. And I'm really f**king struggling right now.

      If Liverpool don't win this f**king league it's going to push me over the edge  :lmao:




      Sorry to hear that mate , they say that in your darkest times you find out what your really made of , go stay with your family mate , but above all keep talking , the pain although immense at this time will fade , speaking as one who has had a torrid year especially this past six months , you have to talk just keeping it inside no matter how strong we think we are only escalates the problem , have some time with your sister try and clear the mind a bit  it’s not easy but being with people who care about you is a great start
      All the best fella
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      Reply #13: Apr 03, 2019 09:43:52 am
      Haven't been on the forum in a while. Finding my life very tough at the moment. First time I've logged in for a while and I stumble across this thread. 

      I ran my own company for years which was a family business. I had a fallout with my father and we haven't spoken in a while now. I left the company and lost my livelihood. Im now in a bit of debt because of it.

      I have a son, he's nearly 9. For some strange reason, his mother just can't be civil even though we parted ways shortly after he was born. She is just determined to make my life a misery. Always wants war. Always wants drama. It's an every day occurrence.

      We've had the same arrangements in place for his whole life but she's recently drragged me through the courts to try and reduce my time with him and to increase hers. She asked that my time was cut by 50%. This was incredibly tough and stressful.

      Then to top everything off, I found out on friday night just gone that my fiancé who I've been with for almost 7 years now (proposed may 2018) has been having an affair with a man she works with for several months. I knew she was upto something and it was making me miserable for ages and then I eventually discovered it all out this weekend.

      My partner also has a child the same age. I've been her step dad for seven years. So my family is just completely broken now.

      I'm finding it really tough. Very tough. I feel like I've lost my mind. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm just incredibly sad and I can't describe the pain that just won't go away. I can't sleep or eat. I just feel so unwell.

      I've been drinking heavily this weekend after discovering what my partner was upto, and then on Saturday morning I went for a walk but only ended up at the local train station. I wanted to throw myself infront of a train and just end it all. I started to write a letter on my phone to my son and I burst out crying. Went through my photos of him and cried more. I couldn't go through with it. I couldn't do it to him.

      Since then I put a cry out to Facebook. I asked if anyone was free for a chat because I was really struggling and I needed help.   The responses I got was actually overwhelming. So many people asked to see me and if I was ok.

      A couple of mates came and got me and we just sat and talked for ages. It helped.

      And that's all I've done every day since. Getting outdoors. Trying to be active. Always with somebody. Always talking to somebody. And it's helping, slowly.

      My dad has since been in touch and we hugged it out. He's suggested I go and stay with my sister for a few days who lives down south, which I think is a good idea.

      Right now I'm typing this in the spare bedroom of my best friends house. He's looked after me.

      I'm trying my best to get through it. To get a grip. To man up. But it's f**king hard man. And I'm really f**king struggling right now.

      If Liverpool don't win this f**king league it's going to push me over the edge  :lmao:





      Sorry to hear your troubles pal, unfortunately (or fortunately) I can't relate to your troubles, however with my own experiences over the years battling with debt, gambling, drink and drugs, I can assure you the best thing for you is to talk. Don't bottle it up.

      And one thing you soon realise when you're having problems is who your real friends are.

      Growing up I would've classed every c**t as my friend because I would've sat out and partied with them every weekend for days, but when the sh*t hits the fan they're nowhere to be seen.

      My circle is very small now, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #14: Apr 03, 2019 09:56:38 am
      Haven't been on the forum in a while. Finding my life very tough at the moment. First time I've logged in for a while and I stumble across this thread. 

      I ran my own company for years which was a family business. I had a fallout with my father and we haven't spoken in a while now. I left the company and lost my livelihood. Im now in a bit of debt because of it.

      I have a son, he's nearly 9. For some strange reason, his mother just can't be civil even though we parted ways shortly after he was born. She is just determined to make my life a misery. Always wants war. Always wants drama. It's an every day occurrence.

      We've had the same arrangements in place for his whole life but she's recently drragged me through the courts to try and reduce my time with him and to increase hers. She asked that my time was cut by 50%. This was incredibly tough and stressful.

      Then to top everything off, I found out on friday night just gone that my fiancé who I've been with for almost 7 years now (proposed may 2018) has been having an affair with a man she works with for several months. I knew she was upto something and it was making me miserable for ages and then I eventually discovered it all out this weekend.

      My partner also has a child the same age. I've been her step dad for seven years. So my family is just completely broken now.

      I'm finding it really tough. Very tough. I feel like I've lost my mind. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm just incredibly sad and I can't describe the pain that just won't go away. I can't sleep or eat. I just feel so unwell.

      I've been drinking heavily this weekend after discovering what my partner was upto, and then on Saturday morning I went for a walk but only ended up at the local train station. I wanted to throw myself infront of a train and just end it all. I started to write a letter on my phone to my son and I burst out crying. Went through my photos of him and cried more. I couldn't go through with it. I couldn't do it to him.

      Since then I put a cry out to Facebook. I asked if anyone was free for a chat because I was really struggling and I needed help.   The responses I got was actually overwhelming. So many people asked to see me and if I was ok.

      A couple of mates came and got me and we just sat and talked for ages. It helped.

      And that's all I've done every day since. Getting outdoors. Trying to be active. Always with somebody. Always talking to somebody. And it's helping, slowly.

      My dad has since been in touch and we hugged it out. He's suggested I go and stay with my sister for a few days who lives down south, which I think is a good idea.

      Right now I'm typing this in the spare bedroom of my best friends house. He's looked after me.

      I'm trying my best to get through it. To get a grip. To man up. But it's f**king hard man. And I'm really f**king struggling right now.

      If Liverpool don't win this f**king league it's going to push me over the edge  :lmao:





      I know we don’t see eye to eye at times on the Reds fella but I hope we can all relate to a fellow human’s struggles.

      There’s always a path out of strife - no matter how black it may feel. A couple rolls of the dice and luck / life changes in a flash.

      You’ve taken the biggest step of all by accepting you’re struggling and being brave enough to ask for help.

      My thoughts and good wishes to you and your loved ones.

      You’ve got this. Just hang in there and it will get better.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #15: Apr 03, 2019 10:08:51 am
      Haven't been on the forum in a while. Finding my life very tough at the moment. First time I've logged in for a while and I stumble across this thread. 

      I ran my own company for years which was a family business. I had a fallout with my father and we haven't spoken in a while now. I left the company and lost my livelihood. Im now in a bit of debt because of it.

      I have a son, he's nearly 9. For some strange reason, his mother just can't be civil even though we parted ways shortly after he was born. She is just determined to make my life a misery. Always wants war. Always wants drama. It's an every day occurrence.

      We've had the same arrangements in place for his whole life but she's recently drragged me through the courts to try and reduce my time with him and to increase hers. She asked that my time was cut by 50%. This was incredibly tough and stressful.

      Then to top everything off, I found out on friday night just gone that my fiancé who I've been with for almost 7 years now (proposed may 2018) has been having an affair with a man she works with for several months. I knew she was upto something and it was making me miserable for ages and then I eventually discovered it all out this weekend.

      My partner also has a child the same age. I've been her step dad for seven years. So my family is just completely broken now.

      I'm finding it really tough. Very tough. I feel like I've lost my mind. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm just incredibly sad and I can't describe the pain that just won't go away. I can't sleep or eat. I just feel so unwell.

      I've been drinking heavily this weekend after discovering what my partner was upto, and then on Saturday morning I went for a walk but only ended up at the local train station. I wanted to throw myself infront of a train and just end it all. I started to write a letter on my phone to my son and I burst out crying. Went through my photos of him and cried more. I couldn't go through with it. I couldn't do it to him.

      Since then I put a cry out to Facebook. I asked if anyone was free for a chat because I was really struggling and I needed help.   The responses I got was actually overwhelming. So many people asked to see me and if I was ok.

      A couple of mates came and got me and we just sat and talked for ages. It helped.

      And that's all I've done every day since. Getting outdoors. Trying to be active. Always with somebody. Always talking to somebody. And it's helping, slowly.

      My dad has since been in touch and we hugged it out. He's suggested I go and stay with my sister for a few days who lives down south, which I think is a good idea.

      Right now I'm typing this in the spare bedroom of my best friends house. He's looked after me.

      I'm trying my best to get through it. To get a grip. To man up. But it's f**king hard man. And I'm really f**king struggling right now.

      If Liverpool don't win this f**king league it's going to push me over the edge  :lmao:





      That’s tough buddy I really feel for you.
      If you are having any thoughts like standing in front of railway lines please go and seek some advice from professionals.

      All the best and just kept thinking of your little boy when things seem a bit dark.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #16: Apr 03, 2019 10:12:24 am
      more than happy to chat mate and you can vent your spleen and get things off your chest and it will feel good for a while but you need help from someone who actually understands what your going through and can help you find a way back to where you want to be.
      Us old farts will have all had struggles some greater than others and we know you can get through them and come out and find a life worth living.
      Being around people who care about you is a great start and laying off the booze just for a short while will help.
      Don't be a stranger come on the forum and slag us all off if it helps just don't bottle it up.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #17: Apr 03, 2019 01:10:11 pm
      Haven't been on the forum in a while. Finding my life very tough at the moment. First time I've logged in for a while and I stumble across this thread. 

      I ran my own company for years which was a family business. I had a fallout with my father and we haven't spoken in a while now. I left the company and lost my livelihood. Im now in a bit of debt because of it.

      I have a son, he's nearly 9. For some strange reason, his mother just can't be civil even though we parted ways shortly after he was born. She is just determined to make my life a misery. Always wants war. Always wants drama. It's an every day occurrence.

      We've had the same arrangements in place for his whole life but she's recently drragged me through the courts to try and reduce my time with him and to increase hers. She asked that my time was cut by 50%. This was incredibly tough and stressful.

      Then to top everything off, I found out on friday night just gone that my fiancé who I've been with for almost 7 years now (proposed may 2018) has been having an affair with a man she works with for several months. I knew she was upto something and it was making me miserable for ages and then I eventually discovered it all out this weekend.

      My partner also has a child the same age. I've been her step dad for seven years. So my family is just completely broken now.

      I'm finding it really tough. Very tough. I feel like I've lost my mind. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm just incredibly sad and I can't describe the pain that just won't go away. I can't sleep or eat. I just feel so unwell.

      I've been drinking heavily this weekend after discovering what my partner was upto, and then on Saturday morning I went for a walk but only ended up at the local train station. I wanted to throw myself infront of a train and just end it all. I started to write a letter on my phone to my son and I burst out crying. Went through my photos of him and cried more. I couldn't go through with it. I couldn't do it to him.

      Since then I put a cry out to Facebook. I asked if anyone was free for a chat because I was really struggling and I needed help.   The responses I got was actually overwhelming. So many people asked to see me and if I was ok.

      A couple of mates came and got me and we just sat and talked for ages. It helped.

      And that's all I've done every day since. Getting outdoors. Trying to be active. Always with somebody. Always talking to somebody. And it's helping, slowly.

      My dad has since been in touch and we hugged it out. He's suggested I go and stay with my sister for a few days who lives down south, which I think is a good idea.

      Right now I'm typing this in the spare bedroom of my best friends house. He's looked after me.

      I'm trying my best to get through it. To get a grip. To man up. But it's f**king hard man. And I'm really f**king struggling right now.

      If Liverpool don't win this f**king league it's going to push me over the edge  :lmao:





      Hey Kiddo, hold in there..in life we don’t deserve the cards we are dealt.im sure at a point in your life you’ll look back on all these life trials you faced and say I did it, I beat it and I’m better for it..

      I’ve been off the forum lately, I lost my father who was my everything & at times thought what’s the point in life if you can’t enjoy life with the ones you love, You have to step back and rebuild..

      You’ll get a new business started,you’ll find a deserving partner & you’ll give you kid the best years of your lives, he should be priority number one, he’s you focus, make the world a better place for him & yourself..

      After hardship comes ease..

      If you want to talk at anytime I’ll PM you my number..Here for you.

      YNWA..
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #18: Apr 03, 2019 02:51:14 pm
      Please if you are struggling with anything, seek out help, don't feel like you can just "man up" and work through it. While that may in fact work for some people, not everyone is the same and it won't work in every case. Went through a period of time with my wife where she was having really bad panic attacks, like she thought she was going to die of a heart attack or a stroke. It's unbelievable how the mind can initiate physical symptoms that make it seem all the more real and dangerous. I really had no clue how to handle it, in fact, I was not very good at handling it. I'd end up getting upset with her, telling her she was going to be fine and getting angry when it happened because for over a year, she couldn't hardly let me out of her sight because she was afraid something would happen to her and I wouldn't be there to help (even though I wasn't much help). She sought counseling, which helped a little as far as some ways to try and manage stress, but it didn't really help her to not have these attacks. It was a rough period and it's definitely given me a different perspective on mental health issues and how to help people. My family...we're pretty religious (if that's what you want to call it) and while a lot of people think that's all a load of crap (suppose I can't blame people for thinking that in some ways), that's one of the things that ultimately really helped my wife and me to deal with it. Bottom line, everyone's different and everyone has different beliefs and things they struggle with, etc..., but my hope is that anyone on this forum that's having a tough time would please reach out to someone (especially the folks that have posted in this thread) and take them up on their offer of talking. Don't think you can just power through it and everything will be ok. Get some help and and let others help you take care of yourself.

      Great idea for a thread.
      RedWilly
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #19: Apr 03, 2019 04:21:41 pm
      Haven't been on the forum in a while. Finding my life very tough at the moment. First time I've logged in for a while and I stumble across this thread. 

      I ran my own company for years which was a family business. I had a fallout with my father and we haven't spoken in a while now. I left the company and lost my livelihood. Im now in a bit of debt because of it.

      I have a son, he's nearly 9. For some strange reason, his mother just can't be civil even though we parted ways shortly after he was born. She is just determined to make my life a misery. Always wants war. Always wants drama. It's an every day occurrence.

      We've had the same arrangements in place for his whole life but she's recently drragged me through the courts to try and reduce my time with him and to increase hers. She asked that my time was cut by 50%. This was incredibly tough and stressful.

      Then to top everything off, I found out on friday night just gone that my fiancé who I've been with for almost 7 years now (proposed may 2018) has been having an affair with a man she works with for several months. I knew she was upto something and it was making me miserable for ages and then I eventually discovered it all out this weekend.

      My partner also has a child the same age. I've been her step dad for seven years. So my family is just completely broken now.

      I'm finding it really tough. Very tough. I feel like I've lost my mind. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm just incredibly sad and I can't describe the pain that just won't go away. I can't sleep or eat. I just feel so unwell.

      I've been drinking heavily this weekend after discovering what my partner was upto, and then on Saturday morning I went for a walk but only ended up at the local train station. I wanted to throw myself infront of a train and just end it all. I started to write a letter on my phone to my son and I burst out crying. Went through my photos of him and cried more. I couldn't go through with it. I couldn't do it to him.

      Since then I put a cry out to Facebook. I asked if anyone was free for a chat because I was really struggling and I needed help.   The responses I got was actually overwhelming. So many people asked to see me and if I was ok.

      A couple of mates came and got me and we just sat and talked for ages. It helped.

      And that's all I've done every day since. Getting outdoors. Trying to be active. Always with somebody. Always talking to somebody. And it's helping, slowly.

      My dad has since been in touch and we hugged it out. He's suggested I go and stay with my sister for a few days who lives down south, which I think is a good idea.

      Right now I'm typing this in the spare bedroom of my best friends house. He's looked after me.

      I'm trying my best to get through it. To get a grip. To man up. But it's f**king hard man. And I'm really f**king struggling right now.

      If Liverpool don't win this f**king league it's going to push me over the edge  :lmao:





      So sorry to hear you’re going through that mate. Don’t worry about ‘Manning up’, there’s nothing unmanly about having a tough time and needing to process.

      Really hope that things start to look up and you’re able to work through it all and stay close to those people who have really shown up for you, it’s great that you’ve acknowledged it and are getting to talk about it.

      YNWA
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #20: Apr 03, 2019 06:02:50 pm
      Haven't been on the forum in a while. Finding my life very tough at the moment. First time I've logged in for a while and I stumble across this thread. 

      I ran my own company for years which was a family business. I had a fallout with my father and we haven't spoken in a while now. I left the company and lost my livelihood. Im now in a bit of debt because of it.

      I have a son, he's nearly 9. For some strange reason, his mother just can't be civil even though we parted ways shortly after he was born. She is just determined to make my life a misery. Always wants war. Always wants drama. It's an every day occurrence.

      We've had the same arrangements in place for his whole life but she's recently drragged me through the courts to try and reduce my time with him and to increase hers. She asked that my time was cut by 50%. This was incredibly tough and stressful.

      Then to top everything off, I found out on friday night just gone that my fiancé who I've been with for almost 7 years now (proposed may 2018) has been having an affair with a man she works with for several months. I knew she was upto something and it was making me miserable for ages and then I eventually discovered it all out this weekend.

      My partner also has a child the same age. I've been her step dad for seven years. So my family is just completely broken now.

      I'm finding it really tough. Very tough. I feel like I've lost my mind. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm just incredibly sad and I can't describe the pain that just won't go away. I can't sleep or eat. I just feel so unwell.

      I've been drinking heavily this weekend after discovering what my partner was upto, and then on Saturday morning I went for a walk but only ended up at the local train station. I wanted to throw myself infront of a train and just end it all. I started to write a letter on my phone to my son and I burst out crying. Went through my photos of him and cried more. I couldn't go through with it. I couldn't do it to him.

      Since then I put a cry out to Facebook. I asked if anyone was free for a chat because I was really struggling and I needed help.   The responses I got was actually overwhelming. So many people asked to see me and if I was ok.

      A couple of mates came and got me and we just sat and talked for ages. It helped.

      And that's all I've done every day since. Getting outdoors. Trying to be active. Always with somebody. Always talking to somebody. And it's helping, slowly.

      My dad has since been in touch and we hugged it out. He's suggested I go and stay with my sister for a few days who lives down south, which I think is a good idea.

      Right now I'm typing this in the spare bedroom of my best friends house. He's looked after me.

      I'm trying my best to get through it. To get a grip. To man up. But it's f**king hard man. And I'm really f**king struggling right now.

      If Liverpool don't win this f**king league it's going to push me over the edge  :lmao:





      Sorry to hear that mate and I've missed you on here.

      It sounds like you've had a tough run and like you say it's sometimes hard to see a way out but hopefully things will start to look up for you from now.
      FATKOPITE10
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #21: Apr 03, 2019 06:24:27 pm
      Haven't been on the forum in a while. Finding my life very tough at the moment. First time I've logged in for a while and I stumble across this thread. 

      I ran my own company for years which was a family business. I had a fallout with my father and we haven't spoken in a while now. I left the company and lost my livelihood. Im now in a bit of debt because of it.

      I have a son, he's nearly 9. For some strange reason, his mother just can't be civil even though we parted ways shortly after he was born. She is just determined to make my life a misery. Always wants war. Always wants drama. It's an every day occurrence.

      We've had the same arrangements in place for his whole life but she's recently drragged me through the courts to try and reduce my time with him and to increase hers. She asked that my time was cut by 50%. This was incredibly tough and stressful.

      Then to top everything off, I found out on friday night just gone that my fiancé who I've been with for almost 7 years now (proposed may 2018) has been having an affair with a man she works with for several months. I knew she was upto something and it was making me miserable for ages and then I eventually discovered it all out this weekend.

      My partner also has a child the same age. I've been her step dad for seven years. So my family is just completely broken now.

      I'm finding it really tough. Very tough. I feel like I've lost my mind. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm just incredibly sad and I can't describe the pain that just won't go away. I can't sleep or eat. I just feel so unwell.

      I've been drinking heavily this weekend after discovering what my partner was upto, and then on Saturday morning I went for a walk but only ended up at the local train station. I wanted to throw myself infront of a train and just end it all. I started to write a letter on my phone to my son and I burst out crying. Went through my photos of him and cried more. I couldn't go through with it. I couldn't do it to him.

      Since then I put a cry out to Facebook. I asked if anyone was free for a chat because I was really struggling and I needed help.   The responses I got was actually overwhelming. So many people asked to see me and if I was ok.

      A couple of mates came and got me and we just sat and talked for ages. It helped.

      And that's all I've done every day since. Getting outdoors. Trying to be active. Always with somebody. Always talking to somebody. And it's helping, slowly.

      My dad has since been in touch and we hugged it out. He's suggested I go and stay with my sister for a few days who lives down south, which I think is a good idea.

      Right now I'm typing this in the spare bedroom of my best friends house. He's looked after me.

      I'm trying my best to get through it. To get a grip. To man up. But it's f**king hard man. And I'm really f**king struggling right now.

      If Liverpool don't win this f**king league it's going to push me over the edge  :lmao:





      So sorry to hear that mate, i know we have had our differences (mainly through my own stupidity) but at times like this all i can say is that i feel so much for you, believe me when i say i tell myself to man up almost every day. You shouldn't have to 'man' up. As the current buzz phrase says its okay not be okay. It's great that things are looking up with your dad and talking to your friends has helped. We are here for you, i will freely admit to having days where i feel like giving up or just curling up into a ball. My life is stable and is remarkably drama free but still this black dog hangs around. I couldn't possibly imagine what you are going through. You are being incredibly brave,  i hope you get the support you need, we are all here for you.  :hug:
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #22: Apr 03, 2019 08:26:53 pm
      My partner suffers from manic depression, guess most people would if they lived with me  ;D ...

      But had a friend who I sadly lost touch with, who use to have bad bouts of depression and almost succeeded in topping himself jumping off a roof...

      Remember him telling me once that when people use to say to him that if they where braver they would have tried to take thier life he would smile at them and tell them that " it is not the fact of being brave that leads to to trying to take your own life,I have tried. It is that utter feeling of wretchedness and despair that leads you to try and do it" 

      I really feel for all here who has suffered from any form of mental illness; and a lot more should be done to help...

      Tell people. Talk to someone about how you are feeling, and most importantly don't feel ashamed about it. More people suffer from it than you know

      Thank you for this RedWilly, and for sharing this with us
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #23: Apr 05, 2019 01:33:11 pm
      This thread really puts everything into perspective, as many other posters have mentioned we are here to talk to if needed, I really think this thread can make a real difference to people's lives, let's keep the conversation on mental health open and active.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #24: May 02, 2019 08:45:08 am
      It's been about a month since I last posted. I'm doing and feeling better than I was four weeks ago. Thanks to anybody who replied to my post or sent me a direct message, it meant a lot.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #25: May 04, 2019 10:50:17 pm
      It's been about a month since I last posted. I'm doing and feeling better than I was four weeks ago. Thanks to anybody who replied to my post or sent me a direct message, it meant a lot.

      Glad you’re feeling better pal, keep at it and hopefully in a week you will see the reds lifting the title!!
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #26: May 04, 2019 11:35:18 pm
      It's been about a month since I last posted. I'm doing and feeling better than I was four weeks ago. Thanks to anybody who replied to my post or sent me a direct message, it meant a lot.
      Glad your feeling much better mate & your starting to get back on your feet
      I could relate to what you where going through with the affair business but time is a great healer it really is,it’s good too read you have ironed out your differences with your dad as family is important especially at times like this.
      Do get back posting on these boards as trying to normalise yourself does help & besides we’ve already lost some great posters as it is.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #27: May 30, 2019 09:47:14 am
      Just found this thread and was a very good read.

      I’ve always had anxiety since school but to the level I could manage without actually seeing a doctor.
      I left my small retail job in December, and started at Aldi at the beginning of May and it just tipped me over the edge.
      Panic attacks, vomiting, migraines etc before every shift and extreme anxiety during my shifts until on Sunday I cracked and physically couldn’t go back and had to confess to my family and girl I was really struggling.

      Visited a doctor yesterday and they diagnosed me with generalised anxiety disorder. Prescribed me some medication and have signed me up for an healthy mind program that starts soon. So hopefully this will be a big help, because even though beforehand it was manageable it was tiring everyday living with it. You start doubting the people closest to you, doubting my girlfriend who is the most honest, loyal and open person ever was the last straw for me, I knew my brain was messing with me.

      But yeah what a great relief it is to have it out in the open, everyone has been great about it and now hopefully I can improve it.



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      Reply #28: Jun 27, 2019 10:31:14 pm
      Very sorry to read thru the thread. Hope all can see their way thru and get mentally stronger.

      My own story is luckily not a mental health problem but it might help those that do have problems.Due to a screw up when I was in hospital with a bowl problem I was left bleeding for days on end with no treatment.I lost so much blood it has left me in 18 hours a day nerve pain.It's very difficult thing to live with and none of the drugs work. The problem is called Burning Mouth Syndrome. The pain is with me from dawn to dusk.

      People ask me how I cope with it and my only answer is I live in the moment.I never think how bad will it get. If I thought about tomorrow or to far ahead it would be difficult to accept that I have all that pain to come. I know I can cope, I know I have the mental strength to cope with it.

      That's the thing.All the people with mental health problems I suppose it's easy to say stay positivebut try and stay in the moment but that's the way I cope with pain.Good luck anyway.
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      Reply #29: Jun 28, 2019 09:53:47 am
      Very sorry to read thru the thread. Hope all can see their way thru and get mentally stronger.

      My own story is luckily not a mental health problem but it might help those that do have problems.Due to a screw up when I was in hospital with a bowl problem I was left bleeding for days on end with no treatment.I lost so much blood it has left me in 18 hours a day nerve pain.It's very difficult thing to live with and none of the drugs work. The problem is called Burning Mouth Syndrome. The pain is with me from dawn to dusk.

      People ask me how I cope with it and my only answer is I live in the moment.I never think how bad will it get. If I thought about tomorrow or to far ahead it would be difficult to accept that I have all that pain to come. I know I can cope, I know I have the mental strength to cope with it.

      That's the thing.All the people with mental health problems I suppose it's easy to say stay positivebut try and stay in the moment but that's the way I cope with pain.Good luck anyway.

      I hope you can get through this and get back to full health.The fact you have posted this letter shows how strong you are.
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      Reply #30: Jun 28, 2019 12:10:46 pm
      It's good to see people talking or even just writing about their problems.

      I experienced a few years of tough times and hardship and kept it to myself which i now know makes it more difficult to deal with.

      Even if it is hard to do, speaking to someone who wants to help or listen is a great place to start.

      Keep going and fighting.
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      Reply #31: Aug 14, 2019 11:18:59 pm
      Been a while since anyone has posted in here, but I have been going through some sh*t right now and just wanted peoples opinions.

      So for the last month I've had a headache and been waking up in the middle of the night with hot sweats for no apparent reason. Sometimes I will feel fatigued out of nowhere throughout the day and feel all hot and bothered while my skin is ice cool.

      I went to the doctors about it and they sent me for bloods but reckon its stress related, I just wanted to ask if anyone here has been through the same or something similar?

      I have no issue falling asleep most nights but sometimes I do get real hot and bothered before bed and others I'm fine but just wake up full of sweat.

      Keen to hear if anyone has been through anything similar.

      YNWA
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      Reply #32: Oct 05, 2019 03:33:50 pm
      Been a while since anyone has posted in here, but I have been going through some sh*t right now and just wanted peoples opinions.

      So for the last month I've had a headache and been waking up in the middle of the night with hot sweats for no apparent reason. Sometimes I will feel fatigued out of nowhere throughout the day and feel all hot and bothered while my skin is ice cool.

      I went to the doctors about it and they sent me for bloods but reckon its stress related, I just wanted to ask if anyone here has been through the same or something similar?

      I have no issue falling asleep most nights but sometimes I do get real hot and bothered before bed and others I'm fine but just wake up full of sweat.

      Keen to hear if anyone has been through anything similar.

      YNWA

      Maybe no exactly the same but last few weeks I’ve been struggling to switch off and obsessing about work (started a new job back in May), where the pressure has gradually been increasing.

      But going to bed and dreaming about work and waking up thinking about what needs doing etc. Feels like I have energy but I have it in bursts and then crash and feel fatigued.

      Have taken to leaving my phone and watch at home and going for walks, or get a coffee or something on weekends to disconnect for a few hours, because I feel always being connected to my phone makes it too easy to connect to things stressing me.

      Good luck mate, hope it’s improved since you posted.
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      Reply #33: Oct 05, 2019 08:24:37 pm
      Maybe no exactly the same but last few weeks I’ve been struggling to switch off and obsessing about work (started a new job back in May), where the pressure has gradually been increasing.

      But going to bed and dreaming about work and waking up thinking about what needs doing etc. Feels like I have energy but I have it in bursts and then crash and feel fatigued.

      Have taken to leaving my phone and watch at home and going for walks, or get a coffee or something on weekends to disconnect for a few hours, because I feel always being connected to my phone makes it too easy to connect to things stressing me.

      Good luck mate, hope it’s improved since you posted.

      Go running. I've just started doing this and have made it a promise to myself to make it a very regular thing from now on in. I've only recently started running again but I realised a lot of things were starting to bog me down in work.

      I had loads on I've had some awful bouts of anxiety in the past (not abnormal - I've always found myself in anxious moments for as long back as I can remember) and it's still very much there for me. For me, the signs are obvious - loss of appetite, irritability, hypochondriac thoughts.

      It is the devil on my shoulder. It is the thing telling me, even when thinking about going for a run, that I will do harm to myself or that I'm in no fit state to go running or that by jogging in the park I will somehow look the fool in public. And yet all of that is nonsense once you hit your stride. That you see other people doing it makes you feel so much better as well.

      I've gone though such a busy time at work recently, stressful though very productive but something I've been thinking about far too much. And it kind of showed this morning - I woke up feeling not too good about myself. Sadly it's more often than not that I wake up feeling the burden and anxieties of the world upon me but this one just made me feel especially like crap. Heavy head, tired, lack of appetite (which is the worst thing).

      That state forced me to go for a 25 minute run this morning. During the run your mind may go back to what it is your worrying about but you start to process it so much better and then you hit a nice pace where you're not thinking about anything which I guess becomes a moment of meditation. I came back and I've felt like a feather for much of the day with much greater clarity in my mind and far more energy than I would have had if I hadn't gone out. It totally relaxes you and even my breathing throughout the day has been much deeper and satisfying. It's something I really have to stick at because it really worked for me this morning.
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      Reply #34: Oct 05, 2019 08:37:35 pm
      Hope all is good lads. I've had a mad one the last week with my dad being told chemo is no longer an option. Truth is he's been ill since late June with his bile duct of which delayed his treatment for the cancer he's had for nearly six years. The delay has allowed it to grow of which has led us to this news we got on Wednesday.

      In turn, my stress levels have gone through the roof more than normal with it all over the last few months, anxiety, stress, lack of sleep, etc.

      Folks, get a good CBD Oil. This stuff has helped me no end and I think everybody should be on it. No Holland and Barrett sh*t, get the good stuff and I guarantee you will get results. Doesn't get you high and you don't have to smoke it and perfectly legal.

      https://provacan.co.uk/cbd-oils/natural-cbd-oil-1200-mg/
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      Reply #35: Oct 05, 2019 09:19:20 pm
      Hope all is good lads. I've had a mad one the last week with my dad being told chemo is no longer an option. Truth is he's been ill since late June with his bile duct of which delayed his treatment for the cancer he's had for nearly six years. The delay has allowed it to grow of which has led us to this news we got on Wednesday.

      In turn, my stress levels have gone through the roof more than normal with it all over the last few months, anxiety, stress, lack of sleep, etc.

      Folks, get a good CBD Oil. This stuff has helped me no end and I think everybody should be on it. No Holland and Barrett sh*t, get the good stuff and I guarantee you will get results. Doesn't get you high and you don't have to smoke it and perfectly legal.

      https://provacan.co.uk/cbd-oils/natural-cbd-oil-1200-mg/

      Sorry to hear that. Just gone past the third anniversary of my mum's passing. Still very tough especially for my dad
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      Reply #36: Oct 05, 2019 09:32:16 pm
      Sorry to hear that. Just gone past the third anniversary of my mum's passing. Still very tough especially for my dad

      I imagine so, mate.

      I've obtained some of the not so legal Raw THC oil for my dad. He's never touched a drug in his life, not even a puff of a cigarette. So last night when he was to have his first little go of it I thought I'd rub a bit under my tongue aswell. This was so I knew how he was feeling if he didn't like the feeling and then I could be the knowledgeable one (although I've only toked on a joint no more than 10 times in the last 20 years or so). Anyway, he had his bit, I had my bit and he fell straight to f**king sleep while I had a crazy three hours of being high as a f**king kite before I went white and threw up in the bog 😁
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      Reply #37: Oct 05, 2019 09:55:10 pm
      I imagine so, mate.

      I've obtained some of the not so legal Raw THC oil for my dad. He's never touched a drug in his life, not even a puff of a cigarette. So last night when he was to have his first little go of it I thought I'd rub a bit under my tongue aswell. This was so I knew how he was feeling if he didn't like the feeling and then I could be the knowledgeable one (although I've only toked on a joint no more than 10 times in the last 20 years or so). Anyway, he had his bit, I had my bit and he fell straight to f**king sleep while I had a crazy three hours of being high as a f**king kite before I went white and threw up in the bog 😁

      Haha. Whatever helps you and your dad through this awful period is really important. All the best
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      Reply #38: Oct 05, 2019 10:10:47 pm
      Haha. Whatever helps you and your dad through this awful period is really important. All the best

      For the record we're not just taking it to get stoned. It can cure cancerous cells.
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      Reply #39: Oct 07, 2019 05:56:22 am
      For the record we're not just taking it to get stoned. It can cure cancerous cells.

      Sorry to hear about your dad mate, that’s really sh*t. Friend of mines mother got on CBD oil when she had been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Really helped her apparently with the pain etc and I’ve heard a few similar stories about it.
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      Reply #40: Oct 07, 2019 05:58:08 am
      Go running. I've just started doing this and have made it a promise to myself to make it a very regular thing from now on in. I've only recently started running again but I realised a lot of things were starting to bog me down in work.

      I had loads on I've had some awful bouts of anxiety in the past (not abnormal - I've always found myself in anxious moments for as long back as I can remember) and it's still very much there for me. For me, the signs are obvious - loss of appetite, irritability, hypochondriac thoughts.

      It is the devil on my shoulder. It is the thing telling me, even when thinking about going for a run, that I will do harm to myself or that I'm in no fit state to go running or that by jogging in the park I will somehow look the fool in public. And yet all of that is nonsense once you hit your stride. That you see other people doing it makes you feel so much better as well.

      I've gone though such a busy time at work recently, stressful though very productive but something I've been thinking about far too much. And it kind of showed this morning - I woke up feeling not too good about myself. Sadly it's more often than not that I wake up feeling the burden and anxieties of the world upon me but this one just made me feel especially like crap. Heavy head, tired, lack of appetite (which is the worst thing).

      That state forced me to go for a 25 minute run this morning. During the run your mind may go back to what it is your worrying about but you start to process it so much better and then you hit a nice pace where you're not thinking about anything which I guess becomes a moment of meditation. I came back and I've felt like a feather for much of the day with much greater clarity in my mind and far more energy than I would have had if I hadn't gone out. It totally relaxes you and even my breathing throughout the day has been much deeper and satisfying. It's something I really have to stick at because it really worked for me this morning.

      Cheers mate, I actually went this morning. Had a real shitty weekend where I didn’t leave my apartment and was feeling very low for no obvious reason. Woke up this morning feeling the same way and decided to get myself out rather than just hang around to go to work.

      Really felt good! Will try keep at it, I used to be a good runner back when I actually did exercise :D
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      Reply #41: Oct 07, 2019 08:04:00 am
      For the record we're not just taking it to get stoned. It can cure cancerous cells.

      Thinking of you all man. Cancer is a total c**t.
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      Reply #42: Oct 08, 2019 02:09:31 pm
      Anyway, he had his bit, I had my bit and he fell straight to f**king sleep while I had a crazy three hours of being high as a f**king kite before I went white and threw up in the bog 😁

      Sorry to hear about all this mate.  As unlucky as your dad is he's fortunate in the sense he's got you fighting his corner with him.

      Go running. I've just started doing this and have made it a promise to myself to make it a very regular thing from now on in. I've only recently started running again but I realised a lot of things were starting to bog me down in work.

      Agree with this re: mental wellbeing.  I tend to get my trainers out in Spring and Autumn (not started yet this Autumn) and it not only makes me feel better, but I tend to eat healthier and get better sleep to boot!
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      Reply #43: Oct 15, 2019 02:01:44 am
      Al, JD:

      👍👍👍
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      Reply #44: Oct 15, 2019 02:02:50 am
      RedWilly aswell. 👍👍
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      Reply #45: Oct 20, 2019 10:17:54 pm
      Thanks for the messages lads and hope everyone is doing well themselves.

      Just thought I would give everyone an update I think it was due to the stress of a recent promotion and it was stress that lingered in the back ground. I'm definitely going better, I think the main thing is keeping active and having hobbies which help you get out of work mode and allow you to switch off, saying that I need to get back into the gym.

      Hope all is well with everyone and hope to be posting on here more frequently again.
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      Reply #46: Oct 20, 2019 10:29:27 pm
      Hope all is good lads. I've had a mad one the last week with my dad being told chemo is no longer an option. Truth is he's been ill since late June with his bile duct of which delayed his treatment for the cancer he's had for nearly six years. The delay has allowed it to grow of which has led us to this news we got on Wednesday.

      In turn, my stress levels have gone through the roof more than normal with it all over the last few months, anxiety, stress, lack of sleep, etc.

      Folks, get a good CBD Oil. This stuff has helped me no end and I think everybody should be on it. No Holland and Barrett sh*t, get the good stuff and I guarantee you will get results. Doesn't get you high and you don't have to smoke it and perfectly legal.

      https://provacan.co.uk/cbd-oils/natural-cbd-oil-1200-mg/

      Sorry to hear that WAHS. Totally agree with JD - it is fantastic your dad has you by his side.

      Thanks for the messages lads and hope everyone is doing well themselves.

      Just thought I would give everyone an update I think it was due to the stress of a recent promotion and it was stress that lingered in the back ground. I'm definitely going better, I think the main thing is keeping active and having hobbies which help you get out of work mode and allow you to switch off, saying that I need to get back into the gym.

      Hope all is well with everyone and hope to be posting on here more frequently again.

      Glad to see you are doing well. Keep it up.
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      Reply #47: Oct 20, 2019 10:37:13 pm
      Thanks for the messages lads and hope everyone is doing well themselves.

      Just thought I would give everyone an update I think it was due to the stress of a recent promotion and it was stress that lingered in the back ground. I'm definitely going better, I think the main thing is keeping active and having hobbies which help you get out of work mode and allow you to switch off, saying that I need to get back into the gym.

      Hope all is well with everyone and hope to be posting on here more frequently again.

      Great news. I am in the situation at work where if i go for promotion it involves customer contact and that is something i have done previously and frankly i really don't think i could cope with that anymore. I am just about bubbling under at the moment. I am leaving my current team to go back to my old team which is a real blow as my current lot are a cracking bunch. So glad to hear that you are doing better.
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      Reply #48: Oct 20, 2019 10:46:04 pm
      Great news. I am in the situation at work where if i go for promotion it involves customer contact and that is something i have done previously and frankly i really don't think i could cope with that anymore. I am just about bubbling under at the moment. I am leaving my current team to go back to my old team which is a real blow as my current lot are a cracking bunch. So glad to hear that you are doing better.


      Thanks mate, I hear you every day at work I feel like I'm just about coping and the only saving grace is I really enjoy working with the team I manage. The company culture is toxic however and really undermines the positivity I have towards my team, it's annoying.

      Times outside of work are now more important to me than ever and its led me to be a lot more selective with what I do, if I think I need a day in bed, I'll take it, if I want to go for a couple of drinks I'll go etc, I have realised those few days off to yourself are what can really impact your stress levels overall.
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      Reply #49: Oct 20, 2019 10:57:03 pm
      Thanks mate, I hear you every day at work I feel like I'm just about coping and the only saving grace is I really enjoy working with the team I manage. The company culture is toxic however and really undermines the positivity I have towards my team, it's annoying.

      Times outside of work are now more important to me than ever and its led me to be a lot more selective with what I do, if I think I need a day in bed, I'll take it, if I want to go for a couple of drinks I'll go etc, I have realised those few days off to yourself are what can really impact your stress levels overall.

      Absolutely spot on.
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      Reply #50: Oct 20, 2019 10:58:45 pm
      Really enjoyed reading some of the posts in here and how open people are!

      Attended my first session of seven on Friday with a councillor to work on my severe anxiety I can experience in social environments and work on my proneness to overthink and make up situations in my head.

      Was a really insightful experience and find my self looking forward to my next session. It was like she was in my brain, everything I feel she was putting it into simple terms I couldn’t quite do myself. I left feeling much better just after the first one.

      Also on her advice from my induction before the first session, took up swimming and feel much better for that too.
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      Reply #51: Dec 06, 2019 06:42:52 pm
      Really enjoyed reading some of the posts in here and how open people are!

      Attended my first session of seven on Friday with a councillor to work on my severe anxiety I can experience in social environments and work on my proneness to overthink and make up situations in my head.

      Was a really insightful experience and find my self looking forward to my next session. It was like she was in my brain, everything I feel she was putting it into simple terms I couldn’t quite do myself. I left feeling much better just after the first one.

      Also on her advice from my induction before the first session, took up swimming and feel much better for that too.

      Could do with something like that. With Christmas coming up just feel like i am going to go down a long empty tunnel
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      Reply #52: Dec 07, 2019 08:26:51 pm
      Could do with something like that. With Christmas coming up just feel like i am going to go down a long empty tunnel

      Just try and be positive mate,it will work out for you and you will see things in a different light.
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      Reply #53: Dec 07, 2019 09:32:05 pm
      Just try and be positive mate,it will work out for you and you will see things in a different light.

      Hope so mate
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      Reply #54: Dec 07, 2019 10:33:31 pm
      Could do with something like that. With Christmas coming up just feel like i am going to go down a long empty tunnel

      Sorry to hear you are feeling that way mate.
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      Reply #55: Dec 07, 2019 10:39:30 pm
      Sorry to hear you are feeling that way mate.


      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone
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      Reply #56: Dec 08, 2019 07:58:52 am
      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone



      Feel for you mate, look it may seem like your whole world's collapsing around buddy but YOU need to stay Strong, 
      I'm sorry about your old fella, I hope he recovers somewhat, Everyone has at some point in their lives go through a really sh*t time, whether it's a bereavement,  or life threatening illness, or in your case your dad having a stroke,
      Keep calm mate, and be there for your dad, mentality your stronger than you think,  talk to the professionals caring for your dad, they'll have seen it all before and know answers to questions and give good advice.


      Remember,  Stay Strong bro !


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      Reply #57: Dec 08, 2019 08:12:06 am
      Could do with something like that. With Christmas coming up just feel like i am going to go down a long empty tunnel

      Chin up pal think positive.
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      Reply #58: Dec 08, 2019 09:10:42 am
      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone

      Not boring anyone FK. I lost my Dad on 3rd November and the build up to all that was f**king horrendous. Sh*t is hard, mate, but with the best possible intention at heart, you've gotta be there for people, keep busy and be as tough as you can because things will get better down the line. Most importantly, though, when you need to vent off and you're finding it tough; talk. Like you are. DM me should you want to talk about anything. I mean that. You certainly won't bore me, mate.
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      Reply #59: Dec 08, 2019 09:12:47 am
      Not boring anyone FK. I lost my Dad on 3rd November and the build up to all that was f**king horrendous. Sh*t is hard, mate, but with the best possible intention at heart, you've gotta be there for people, keep busy and be as tough as you can because things will get better down the line. Most importantly, though, when you need to vent off and you're finding it tough, talk. Like you are. DM me should you want to talk about anything. I mean that. You certainly won't bore me, mate.

      Thank you.
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      Reply #60: Dec 08, 2019 09:40:46 am
      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone

      Sorry to hear about this mate.

      Keep going and your dad and things will get better.

      Times like this make you stronger and will ease over time.

      Good luck

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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #61: Dec 09, 2019 02:25:48 pm
      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone

      Much love to you you FK.
      It can be tough when loved ones are suffering or are ill.

      Know that it's ok to feel overwhelmed at times but that those moments will pass.
      If you can invest some time in things you activities you enjoy or sports etc you are good at it helps a little to allow the brain to work away while getting some endorphins into you.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #62: Dec 09, 2019 08:55:02 pm
      Made an appointment back at the psychiatrist that I haven’t seen in about 16 months. Had a horrific experience on Friday and after hiding away a bit over the weekend and chatting to a few people close to me took the plunge to go back to him.

      Had been to this doc previously because I was having these paranoid delusions where I draw a reference or interpretation from innocuous events and put them into some paranoid delusion where I’m feeling persecuted. He had prescribed me last time I saw him anti psychotics and anti depressants but I walked out there and decided he didn’t know what he’s on about and threw them away, mostly because I was I denial about what he’d told me I think.

      Anyway, had a few paranoid episodes since but on Friday at work had a terrible experience and ended up having to leave, think my behavior was coming off very strange which made going back in today a little awkward. Had been out the night before for a few drinks, first time in a while and it had a horrific impact on me. Literally only had 3 beers but was a late night which I’ve tended to avoid because I know it leaves me feeling down the next day.

      Bit devastated to be honest because I genuinely thought I was passed this and one of the reasons I never took the medication previously was that the dr had said I would have to be on it potentially for life.

      Cant help feeling that I’m only 27 and this is not how I want to live my life, having to battle these constant delusions and remind myself it’s in my head, it’s exhausting. It’s lore tiring trying to fight off the paranoia than actually having the delusion. Not seeing the Dr till Jan so going to take it easy until then and see how it goes once on the meds I guess.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #63: Dec 10, 2019 09:56:41 am
      Made an appointment back at the psychiatrist that I haven’t seen in about 16 months. Had a horrific experience on Friday and after hiding away a bit over the weekend and chatting to a few people close to me took the plunge to go back to him.

      Had been to this doc previously because I was having these paranoid delusions where I draw a reference or interpretation from innocuous events and put them into some paranoid delusion where I’m feeling persecuted. He had prescribed me last time I saw him anti psychotics and anti depressants but I walked out there and decided he didn’t know what he’s on about and threw them away, mostly because I was I denial about what he’d told me I think.

      Anyway, had a few paranoid episodes since but on Friday at work had a terrible experience and ended up having to leave, think my behavior was coming off very strange which made going back in today a little awkward. Had been out the night before for a few drinks, first time in a while and it had a horrific impact on me. Literally only had 3 beers but was a late night which I’ve tended to avoid because I know it leaves me feeling down the next day.

      Bit devastated to be honest because I genuinely thought I was passed this and one of the reasons I never took the medication previously was that the dr had said I would have to be on it potentially for life.

      Cant help feeling that I’m only 27 and this is not how I want to live my life, having to battle these constant delusions and remind myself it’s in my head, it’s exhausting. It’s lore tiring trying to fight off the paranoia than actually having the delusion. Not seeing the Dr till Jan so going to take it easy until then and see how it goes once on the meds I guess.

      Have you tried periods off alcohol to see if it helped or does it stay the same?
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      Reply #64: Dec 10, 2019 10:39:58 am
      Have you tried periods off alcohol to see if it helped or does it stay the same?

      I’ve never gone tee total, but significantly reduced how much alcohol I drink over the last 18 months or so. Very rarely have a drink during the week and on weekends if I go out I’ll be home before midnight and have probably 5-6 beers. But I’m not out every weekend, it’s few and far between. Started having a much healthier lifestyle after my first ‘proper’ breakdown and it’s made massive improvements, think this one on Friday caught me off guard a bit.

      Think it’s more brought on when I’m under stress for significant periods of months at a time, had a lot going on recently so going to try find ways to relax a little more.

      Although relaxing is difficult when the national power provider has just announced rolling blackouts for up to 13 hours a day :D
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      Reply #65: Dec 10, 2019 10:50:37 am
      I’ve never gone tee total, but significantly reduced how much alcohol I drink over the last 18 months or so. Very rarely have a drink during the week and on weekends if I go out I’ll be home before midnight and have probably 5-6 beers. But I’m not out every weekend, it’s few and far between. Started having a much healthier lifestyle after my first ‘proper’ breakdown and it’s made massive improvements, think this one on Friday caught me off guard a bit.

      Think it’s more brought on when I’m under stress for significant periods of months at a time, had a lot going on recently so going to try find ways to relax a little more.

      Although relaxing is difficult when the national power provider has just announced rolling blackouts for up to 13 hours a day :D

      Have you got a hobby mate? That is a great way to keep your mind off of your feelings and a way to focus on something else, especially if it's one you need to train/practice at.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #66: Dec 10, 2019 02:51:48 pm
      I’ve never gone tee total, but significantly reduced how much alcohol I drink over the last 18 months or so. Very rarely have a drink during the week and on weekends if I go out I’ll be home before midnight and have probably 5-6 beers. But I’m not out every weekend, it’s few and far between. Started having a much healthier lifestyle after my first ‘proper’ breakdown and it’s made massive improvements, think this one on Friday caught me off guard a bit.

      Think it’s more brought on when I’m under stress for significant periods of months at a time, had a lot going on recently so going to try find ways to relax a little more.

      Although relaxing is difficult when the national power provider has just announced rolling blackouts for up to 13 hours a day :D

      I've made my mind up to go back training in the New Year.
      Not much point promising to clean up right before Christmas.
      People I know swear by running or Box Gyms if that helps.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #67: Dec 10, 2019 02:56:34 pm
      Made an appointment back at the psychiatrist that I haven’t seen in about 16 months. Had a horrific experience on Friday and after hiding away a bit over the weekend and chatting to a few people close to me took the plunge to go back to him.

      Had been to this doc previously because I was having these paranoid delusions where I draw a reference or interpretation from innocuous events and put them into some paranoid delusion where I’m feeling persecuted. He had prescribed me last time I saw him anti psychotics and anti depressants but I walked out there and decided he didn’t know what he’s on about and threw them away, mostly because I was I denial about what he’d told me I think.

      Anyway, had a few paranoid episodes since but on Friday at work had a terrible experience and ended up having to leave, think my behavior was coming off very strange which made going back in today a little awkward. Had been out the night before for a few drinks, first time in a while and it had a horrific impact on me. Literally only had 3 beers but was a late night which I’ve tended to avoid because I know it leaves me feeling down the next day.

      Bit devastated to be honest because I genuinely thought I was passed this and one of the reasons I never took the medication previously was that the dr had said I would have to be on it potentially for life.

      Cant help feeling that I’m only 27 and this is not how I want to live my life, having to battle these constant delusions and remind myself it’s in my head, it’s exhausting. It’s lore tiring trying to fight off the paranoia than actually having the delusion. Not seeing the Dr till Jan so going to take it easy until then and see how it goes once on the meds I guess.

      Hi mate, our situations are different but I understand what you're saying. What I would say is don't be so hard on yourself for 'messing up'. We all make mistakes and you'll only end up compounding the issue by beating yourself up. I'm hesitant to give detailed advice because everyone is different and I don't know the ins and outs, but it sounds like you've a habit of a downward spiral of thoughts, which you just can't let yourself get into just because you had an episode. Focus on what you've done well, and the progress you've clearly made.

      On the psychiatrist, again it is personal, I can't speak for sure, but if you're not confident in their diagnoses, try and get a second opinion. It might be useful to try psychotherapy (talk therapy) as well. Mindfulness has been an invaluable tool for me personally. With that said, some aspects of mental health respond incredibly positively to medication, and I wouldn't rule it out for you personally. Also, remember there are many different types of medication and not all work the same for everyone. It might be a learning process to begin with finding what works for you.

      However you go about it, don't beat yourself up man. You're clearly on the right track and a set back is just that, it's a set back and nothing more. Sometimes you've gotta step back to find a way around. Good luck bro
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      Reply #68: Dec 10, 2019 08:43:23 pm
      Cheers lads. On the sports/hobbies, I’d actually started back at the gym last week before this happened so going to try keep that up. Do need to try find a proper hobby though, it’s always revolves around sports for me but feel a bit over that now and would like to try something new.

      Done therapy before as well and found it really useful but felt it ran its course largely as I got to a lot of underlying issues. This stuff more creeps up on me and by time I realize I’m already pretty far down the rabbit hole. Think Friday is probably the 3rd or 4th time since my only ‘proper’ breakdown where I’ve had these delusions happen.

      Feeling a bit unsure about how to approach it all to be honest but feeling a little better today because I think I’m finally at a point where I need to take active steps. Will see how next few weeks go and take it from there
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #69: Dec 10, 2019 08:52:11 pm
      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone

      nah bollox to that mate the fact you feel like this means your a decent human being and a caring Son. The rest will take care of itself concentrate on your dad and you watch the Reds for a bit of diversion. You feel free to bore the sh*t out of people we have all had bad days weeks months even years your not alone mate
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #70: Dec 10, 2019 10:01:14 pm
      Cheers lads. On the sports/hobbies, I’d actually started back at the gym last week before this happened so going to try keep that up. Do need to try find a proper hobby though, it’s always revolves around sports for me but feel a bit over that now and would like to try something new.

      Done therapy before as well and found it really useful but felt it ran its course largely as I got to a lot of underlying issues. This stuff more creeps up on me and by time I realize I’m already pretty far down the rabbit hole. Think Friday is probably the 3rd or 4th time since my only ‘proper’ breakdown where I’ve had these delusions happen.

      Feeling a bit unsure about how to approach it all to be honest but feeling a little better today because I think I’m finally at a point where I need to take active steps. Will see how next few weeks go and take it from there

      Keep going mate, and you’ll overcome it.

      When I hit hard times, I started going to karate with my daughter which started my road to recovery and focused my mind. Was interesting and took us around the country for various tournaments etc. Just an idea ;-)

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