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      AlwaysTheKop
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #50: Oct 20, 2019 10:58:45 pm
      Really enjoyed reading some of the posts in here and how open people are!

      Attended my first session of seven on Friday with a councillor to work on my severe anxiety I can experience in social environments and work on my proneness to overthink and make up situations in my head.

      Was a really insightful experience and find my self looking forward to my next session. It was like she was in my brain, everything I feel she was putting it into simple terms I couldn’t quite do myself. I left feeling much better just after the first one.

      Also on her advice from my induction before the first session, took up swimming and feel much better for that too.
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      Reply #51: Dec 06, 2019 06:42:52 pm
      Really enjoyed reading some of the posts in here and how open people are!

      Attended my first session of seven on Friday with a councillor to work on my severe anxiety I can experience in social environments and work on my proneness to overthink and make up situations in my head.

      Was a really insightful experience and find my self looking forward to my next session. It was like she was in my brain, everything I feel she was putting it into simple terms I couldn’t quite do myself. I left feeling much better just after the first one.

      Also on her advice from my induction before the first session, took up swimming and feel much better for that too.

      Could do with something like that. With Christmas coming up just feel like i am going to go down a long empty tunnel
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      Reply #52: Dec 07, 2019 08:26:51 pm
      Could do with something like that. With Christmas coming up just feel like i am going to go down a long empty tunnel

      Just try and be positive mate,it will work out for you and you will see things in a different light.
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      Reply #53: Dec 07, 2019 09:32:05 pm
      Just try and be positive mate,it will work out for you and you will see things in a different light.

      Hope so mate
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      Reply #54: Dec 07, 2019 10:33:31 pm
      Could do with something like that. With Christmas coming up just feel like i am going to go down a long empty tunnel

      Sorry to hear you are feeling that way mate.
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      Reply #55: Dec 07, 2019 10:39:30 pm
      Sorry to hear you are feeling that way mate.


      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #56: Dec 08, 2019 07:58:52 am
      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone



      Feel for you mate, look it may seem like your whole world's collapsing around buddy but YOU need to stay Strong, 
      I'm sorry about your old fella, I hope he recovers somewhat, Everyone has at some point in their lives go through a really sh*t time, whether it's a bereavement,  or life threatening illness, or in your case your dad having a stroke,
      Keep calm mate, and be there for your dad, mentality your stronger than you think,  talk to the professionals caring for your dad, they'll have seen it all before and know answers to questions and give good advice.


      Remember,  Stay Strong bro !


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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #57: Dec 08, 2019 08:12:06 am
      Could do with something like that. With Christmas coming up just feel like i am going to go down a long empty tunnel

      Chin up pal think positive.
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      Reply #58: Dec 08, 2019 09:10:42 am
      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone

      Not boring anyone FK. I lost my Dad on 3rd November and the build up to all that was f**king horrendous. Sh*t is hard, mate, but with the best possible intention at heart, you've gotta be there for people, keep busy and be as tough as you can because things will get better down the line. Most importantly, though, when you need to vent off and you're finding it tough; talk. Like you are. DM me should you want to talk about anything. I mean that. You certainly won't bore me, mate.
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      Reply #59: Dec 08, 2019 09:12:47 am
      Not boring anyone FK. I lost my Dad on 3rd November and the build up to all that was f**king horrendous. Sh*t is hard, mate, but with the best possible intention at heart, you've gotta be there for people, keep busy and be as tough as you can because things will get better down the line. Most importantly, though, when you need to vent off and you're finding it tough, talk. Like you are. DM me should you want to talk about anything. I mean that. You certainly won't bore me, mate.

      Thank you.
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      Reply #60: Dec 08, 2019 09:40:46 am
      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone

      Sorry to hear about this mate.

      Keep going and your dad and things will get better.

      Times like this make you stronger and will ease over time.

      Good luck

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      Reply #61: Dec 09, 2019 02:25:48 pm
      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone

      Much love to you you FK.
      It can be tough when loved ones are suffering or are ill.

      Know that it's ok to feel overwhelmed at times but that those moments will pass.
      If you can invest some time in things you activities you enjoy or sports etc you are good at it helps a little to allow the brain to work away while getting some endorphins into you.
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #62: Dec 09, 2019 08:55:02 pm
      Made an appointment back at the psychiatrist that I haven’t seen in about 16 months. Had a horrific experience on Friday and after hiding away a bit over the weekend and chatting to a few people close to me took the plunge to go back to him.

      Had been to this doc previously because I was having these paranoid delusions where I draw a reference or interpretation from innocuous events and put them into some paranoid delusion where I’m feeling persecuted. He had prescribed me last time I saw him anti psychotics and anti depressants but I walked out there and decided he didn’t know what he’s on about and threw them away, mostly because I was I denial about what he’d told me I think.

      Anyway, had a few paranoid episodes since but on Friday at work had a terrible experience and ended up having to leave, think my behavior was coming off very strange which made going back in today a little awkward. Had been out the night before for a few drinks, first time in a while and it had a horrific impact on me. Literally only had 3 beers but was a late night which I’ve tended to avoid because I know it leaves me feeling down the next day.

      Bit devastated to be honest because I genuinely thought I was passed this and one of the reasons I never took the medication previously was that the dr had said I would have to be on it potentially for life.

      Cant help feeling that I’m only 27 and this is not how I want to live my life, having to battle these constant delusions and remind myself it’s in my head, it’s exhausting. It’s lore tiring trying to fight off the paranoia than actually having the delusion. Not seeing the Dr till Jan so going to take it easy until then and see how it goes once on the meds I guess.
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      Reply #63: Dec 10, 2019 09:56:41 am
      Made an appointment back at the psychiatrist that I haven’t seen in about 16 months. Had a horrific experience on Friday and after hiding away a bit over the weekend and chatting to a few people close to me took the plunge to go back to him.

      Had been to this doc previously because I was having these paranoid delusions where I draw a reference or interpretation from innocuous events and put them into some paranoid delusion where I’m feeling persecuted. He had prescribed me last time I saw him anti psychotics and anti depressants but I walked out there and decided he didn’t know what he’s on about and threw them away, mostly because I was I denial about what he’d told me I think.

      Anyway, had a few paranoid episodes since but on Friday at work had a terrible experience and ended up having to leave, think my behavior was coming off very strange which made going back in today a little awkward. Had been out the night before for a few drinks, first time in a while and it had a horrific impact on me. Literally only had 3 beers but was a late night which I’ve tended to avoid because I know it leaves me feeling down the next day.

      Bit devastated to be honest because I genuinely thought I was passed this and one of the reasons I never took the medication previously was that the dr had said I would have to be on it potentially for life.

      Cant help feeling that I’m only 27 and this is not how I want to live my life, having to battle these constant delusions and remind myself it’s in my head, it’s exhausting. It’s lore tiring trying to fight off the paranoia than actually having the delusion. Not seeing the Dr till Jan so going to take it easy until then and see how it goes once on the meds I guess.

      Have you tried periods off alcohol to see if it helped or does it stay the same?
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      Reply #64: Dec 10, 2019 10:39:58 am
      Have you tried periods off alcohol to see if it helped or does it stay the same?

      I’ve never gone tee total, but significantly reduced how much alcohol I drink over the last 18 months or so. Very rarely have a drink during the week and on weekends if I go out I’ll be home before midnight and have probably 5-6 beers. But I’m not out every weekend, it’s few and far between. Started having a much healthier lifestyle after my first ‘proper’ breakdown and it’s made massive improvements, think this one on Friday caught me off guard a bit.

      Think it’s more brought on when I’m under stress for significant periods of months at a time, had a lot going on recently so going to try find ways to relax a little more.

      Although relaxing is difficult when the national power provider has just announced rolling blackouts for up to 13 hours a day :D
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      Reply #65: Dec 10, 2019 10:50:37 am
      I’ve never gone tee total, but significantly reduced how much alcohol I drink over the last 18 months or so. Very rarely have a drink during the week and on weekends if I go out I’ll be home before midnight and have probably 5-6 beers. But I’m not out every weekend, it’s few and far between. Started having a much healthier lifestyle after my first ‘proper’ breakdown and it’s made massive improvements, think this one on Friday caught me off guard a bit.

      Think it’s more brought on when I’m under stress for significant periods of months at a time, had a lot going on recently so going to try find ways to relax a little more.

      Although relaxing is difficult when the national power provider has just announced rolling blackouts for up to 13 hours a day :D

      Have you got a hobby mate? That is a great way to keep your mind off of your feelings and a way to focus on something else, especially if it's one you need to train/practice at.
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      Reply #66: Dec 10, 2019 02:51:48 pm
      I’ve never gone tee total, but significantly reduced how much alcohol I drink over the last 18 months or so. Very rarely have a drink during the week and on weekends if I go out I’ll be home before midnight and have probably 5-6 beers. But I’m not out every weekend, it’s few and far between. Started having a much healthier lifestyle after my first ‘proper’ breakdown and it’s made massive improvements, think this one on Friday caught me off guard a bit.

      Think it’s more brought on when I’m under stress for significant periods of months at a time, had a lot going on recently so going to try find ways to relax a little more.

      Although relaxing is difficult when the national power provider has just announced rolling blackouts for up to 13 hours a day :D

      I've made my mind up to go back training in the New Year.
      Not much point promising to clean up right before Christmas.
      People I know swear by running or Box Gyms if that helps.
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      Reply #67: Dec 10, 2019 02:56:34 pm
      Made an appointment back at the psychiatrist that I haven’t seen in about 16 months. Had a horrific experience on Friday and after hiding away a bit over the weekend and chatting to a few people close to me took the plunge to go back to him.

      Had been to this doc previously because I was having these paranoid delusions where I draw a reference or interpretation from innocuous events and put them into some paranoid delusion where I’m feeling persecuted. He had prescribed me last time I saw him anti psychotics and anti depressants but I walked out there and decided he didn’t know what he’s on about and threw them away, mostly because I was I denial about what he’d told me I think.

      Anyway, had a few paranoid episodes since but on Friday at work had a terrible experience and ended up having to leave, think my behavior was coming off very strange which made going back in today a little awkward. Had been out the night before for a few drinks, first time in a while and it had a horrific impact on me. Literally only had 3 beers but was a late night which I’ve tended to avoid because I know it leaves me feeling down the next day.

      Bit devastated to be honest because I genuinely thought I was passed this and one of the reasons I never took the medication previously was that the dr had said I would have to be on it potentially for life.

      Cant help feeling that I’m only 27 and this is not how I want to live my life, having to battle these constant delusions and remind myself it’s in my head, it’s exhausting. It’s lore tiring trying to fight off the paranoia than actually having the delusion. Not seeing the Dr till Jan so going to take it easy until then and see how it goes once on the meds I guess.

      Hi mate, our situations are different but I understand what you're saying. What I would say is don't be so hard on yourself for 'messing up'. We all make mistakes and you'll only end up compounding the issue by beating yourself up. I'm hesitant to give detailed advice because everyone is different and I don't know the ins and outs, but it sounds like you've a habit of a downward spiral of thoughts, which you just can't let yourself get into just because you had an episode. Focus on what you've done well, and the progress you've clearly made.

      On the psychiatrist, again it is personal, I can't speak for sure, but if you're not confident in their diagnoses, try and get a second opinion. It might be useful to try psychotherapy (talk therapy) as well. Mindfulness has been an invaluable tool for me personally. With that said, some aspects of mental health respond incredibly positively to medication, and I wouldn't rule it out for you personally. Also, remember there are many different types of medication and not all work the same for everyone. It might be a learning process to begin with finding what works for you.

      However you go about it, don't beat yourself up man. You're clearly on the right track and a set back is just that, it's a set back and nothing more. Sometimes you've gotta step back to find a way around. Good luck bro
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      Reply #68: Dec 10, 2019 08:43:23 pm
      Cheers lads. On the sports/hobbies, I’d actually started back at the gym last week before this happened so going to try keep that up. Do need to try find a proper hobby though, it’s always revolves around sports for me but feel a bit over that now and would like to try something new.

      Done therapy before as well and found it really useful but felt it ran its course largely as I got to a lot of underlying issues. This stuff more creeps up on me and by time I realize I’m already pretty far down the rabbit hole. Think Friday is probably the 3rd or 4th time since my only ‘proper’ breakdown where I’ve had these delusions happen.

      Feeling a bit unsure about how to approach it all to be honest but feeling a little better today because I think I’m finally at a point where I need to take active steps. Will see how next few weeks go and take it from there
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      Re: The mental health thread
      Reply #69: Dec 10, 2019 08:52:11 pm
      Yeah. Just come back after a heartbreaking day at the hospital. Apparently my dad is in the delirium stage after a stroke.imagining seeing things and generally confused and making no sense. Coming home to an empty house full of despair, worried about life, money everything,  my work manager asking indirectly how soon i would be back (missed one day).feel like i have failed as a person, son etc. Hadn't been feeling too great anyway. Won't keep on and bore everyone

      nah bollox to that mate the fact you feel like this means your a decent human being and a caring Son. The rest will take care of itself concentrate on your dad and you watch the Reds for a bit of diversion. You feel free to bore the sh*t out of people we have all had bad days weeks months even years your not alone mate
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      Reply #70: Dec 10, 2019 10:01:14 pm
      Cheers lads. On the sports/hobbies, I’d actually started back at the gym last week before this happened so going to try keep that up. Do need to try find a proper hobby though, it’s always revolves around sports for me but feel a bit over that now and would like to try something new.

      Done therapy before as well and found it really useful but felt it ran its course largely as I got to a lot of underlying issues. This stuff more creeps up on me and by time I realize I’m already pretty far down the rabbit hole. Think Friday is probably the 3rd or 4th time since my only ‘proper’ breakdown where I’ve had these delusions happen.

      Feeling a bit unsure about how to approach it all to be honest but feeling a little better today because I think I’m finally at a point where I need to take active steps. Will see how next few weeks go and take it from there

      Keep going mate, and you’ll overcome it.

      When I hit hard times, I started going to karate with my daughter which started my road to recovery and focused my mind. Was interesting and took us around the country for various tournaments etc. Just an idea ;-)

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