The relationship/potential relationship advice thread

Tom, have a drink and relax. The hardest part is getting the courage of actually breaking the ice. Once you've said hello it all goes easier. I know it's a cliche, but settle down, be yourself and just just talk about anything that interests you and when you know what she's into, talk about that, a lot! There's no point in making up lies and stories on the spot because they will come back to haunt you and make it worse. 

And get her drunk!

There's no point in making up lies and stories on the spot because they will come back to haunt you and make it worse. 

Oh I don't know that adds to the fun at times...

I had a spell of doing that... Convinced them I was a scuba diver, pilot, politician...
My favourite was NFL quarterback ....

Tom, have a drink and relax. The hardest part is getting the courage of actually breaking the ice. Once you've said hello it all goes easier. I know it's a cliche, but settle down, be yourself and just just talk about anything that interests you and when you know what she's into, talk about that, a lot! There's no point in making up lies and stories on the spot because they will come back to haunt you and make it worse. 

And get her drunk!

Maybe you could don the kylie outfit? Til he gets his confidence back like?

Oh I don't know that adds to the fun at times...

I had a spell of doing that... Convinced them I was a scuba diver, pilot, politician...
My favourite was NFL quarterback ....

Maybe you could don the kylie outfit? Til he gets his confidence back like?

Oh believe me, I've done the same. Bs I when I had longer hair, I was able to style it so many ways and dress accordingly and had a story for different nights. Sleeked back hair and a suit, and I was a 20 year old business hotshot, granted this one didn't work. Just natural curls and I was a professional Irish surfer! That one worked a good bit but my personal favourite didn't need any act. My hair was quite unique and used to just strike up combos with randomers but I had a great wingman. If anyone would just come up talking to me, he'd let them off and look for a girl that can see the random person talking to me and say how great that I can talk to 'fans' and he would say that I was on some soap or something and actually do the work for me! Ha! It looked convincing cos people were coming up to me not the other way round! Summer 2010 I was a soap superstar!! That was when I was looking for one nighters only tho, it's different now tho.

It's no coincidence I'm growing my hair back!!

Kylie is gone I'm afraid!

Oh I don't know that adds to the fun at times...

I had a spell of doing that... Convinced them I was a scuba diver, pilot, politician...
My favourite was NFL quarterback ....

Maybe you could don the kylie outfit? Til he gets his confidence back like?

I managed to persuade a young lady that I changed the batteries in Cats Eyes

I think a bit of white lie in the initial bravado stages is the norm ( as long as you don't go too far)

A guy I work with told a future gf that he was a Spy - kept that going for 2 years until they moved in together until he told her he was just a IT Tech in the Air Force

I managed to persuade a young lady that I changed the batteries in Cats Eyes

Another one is mixing Tartan Paint

Changing the bubble in spirit levels!

I managed to persuade a young lady that I changed the batteries in Cats Eyes

I think a bit of white lie in the initial bravado stages is the norm ( as long as you don't go too far)

A guy I work with told a future gf that he was a Spy - kept that going for 2 years until they moved in together until he told her he was just a IT Tech in the Air Force

 

It's always funny until the potential second date comes up...

We always tried to make them more and more out there..

The quarter back one was a fine achievement.. As I'm 5'11... White.. 11 1/2 stone... English...



A mate of mine who has similar features convinced one he was an undercover Korean soldier... That being white was what made him so under cover

It's always funny until the potential second date comes up...

We always tried to make them more and more out there..

The quarter back one was a fine achievement.. As I'm 5'11... White.. 11 1/2 stone... English...



A mate of mine who has similar features convinced one he was an undercover Korean soldier... That being white was what made him so under cover

LMFAO that is absolute gold mate!

Changing the bubble in spirit levels!

I like that one

It's always funny until the potential second date comes up...

We always tried to make them more and more out there..

The quarter back one was a fine achievement.. As I'm 5'11... White.. 11 1/2 stone... English...



A mate of mine who has similar features convinced one he was an undercover Korean soldier... That being white was what made him so under cover

That's brilliant

+1

Another friend looks like Prince Harry - lots of fun has been had with that

So ... remember one of my earlier posts?

I decided to ask C out but she played that "remain as friends" card.

So .. I guess a girl asking me all sorts of relationship questions does not mean anything. 

So ... remember one of my earlier posts?

I decided to ask C out but she played that "remain as friends" card.

So .. I guess a girl asking me all sorts of relationship questions does not mean anything. 

So are you moving in on B now?

So are you moving in on B now?

Lube and porn?



I'll be honest after you have been in a relationship so long it's funny how that always reverts to plan a again

I'll be honest after you have been in a relationship so long it's funny how that always reverts to plan a again

Yep in a relationship you still need lube and porn to get satisfaction.

So are you moving in on B now?

Hahah no ...

I've got some advice for the ladies (this mainly applies to those in uni).

If you want to find a guy to have a stable and functioning relationship with: TAKE IT SLOW.

Even if you feel like speeding things up (thinking that it'll make him like you more).
Approach the guy sober or just don't jump in his bed when you're looking for someone to just cuddle with on those cold and lonely nights. Guys never want to just "cuddle".
Make him work for it and if he sticks around , he's a keeper.
But usually the sad truth is not many guys are not looking for a long-term relationship during their freshman year.

I learned this the hard way. I got hurt twice, the same way, by two different guys who ended up not wanting a relationship.

This was also due to the fact that before uni I had never been in a relationship or had a romantic encounter of any sort, so I had not idea about how relationships worked.

That sucks niksluvslfc. There isn't a way relationships work, it's different for everybody and each relationship is different. It's something you have to figure out yourself, what do you want. What kind of person do you want to be with, and what do you want that person to bring to the relationship. And that changes as you get older too. I think most people have fallen for someone who wasn't good for them at some point in their life, the trick is realising that before you get hurt. The best relationships for me have been the ones that made me more motivated in life, when someone makes me want to be the best version of me, instead of dragging me down.

But sex is different for people too, it's not just guys who enjoy casual sex. But sleeping with a guy won't make him like you more, it can take a relationship to the next level but only if the feelings are already there.  And actions do speak louder than words, pay attention to his behaviour, not just the things he says. If he has feelings for you then he'll be there when you need him and do things for you and stuff. Instead of just saying he likes you and wants to be with you, he'll actually back that up with his actions.

Don't you just love when a girl leads you on for months then drops you like a sack of sh*t.

FML

I also don't get how a girl asked me tons of questions such as whether I have a girlfriend, whether I ever had one and why didn't I ever have one ... AND I've only just met her for the second time.

I asked her out thinking she was a wee bit interested but she said we should remain friends.

So I meet this girl in September, and I liked her so much but she was in a relationship at the time. At the end of December she broke up with her boyfriend. I didn't want to move in too quickly after because I didn't want to be her rebound so I left it for a while. So I stuck around her, talking to her even flirting, she was showing all the signs of being ready for a relationship again. So I decided I would make the move. Just as the words were about to leave my mouth her ex shows up out of nowhere and completely interrupts me and starts asking her how she is. Now they are meeting up for lunch to 'catch up'.

Where does that leave me? Should I ask her out anyway or not? Not sure if I want to be in the middle of their relationship or not if I'm honest and I'm a bit confused.

Ask her out anyway as long as she isn't showing signs of getting back with him IMO.

On an a slightly related note... I hate ex's! Mine is a F***ing moron!

On a slightly related note... I hate ex's! Mine is a F***ing moron!

As is are mine.

Funny how your opinions of a person can change once you're out of a relationship and the Rosé tinted specs come off, isn't it?